RELATIONSHIPS

[shawty106]

the was once a typical situation i found myself in whereby i found myself falling inlove with a man who was already involved with someone else and the was a child involved to,i gues most of the time i was kidding myself,telling myself that i won't get too attached because i just needed company because it was a new environment i just moved there.but truth be spoken he was there when i needed him everyday,everytime,every second of the day and who was i kidding i just fell for him eventually knowingly what i was getting myself into. my sister tried to get me away from him but i just thought she had the hearts for him because his friend liked my sister and she never wanted to date him but comfortable around my guy friend.so we dated for over two years and was not easy when i had to be with him and every time got reminded that there was someone in the picture,because the was this perfect framily potrait i had to look at everytime i was there,everytime after making love by all means tried to hide the pain but at times he could see right through me we never openly spoken about her but sometimes we would..now here is the story finaly the two broke up happy yes i am we get to be together just me and him for over a few months that has been the case.But now i don't feel that happy anymore the thought of him puts a smile on my face but the joy the spark aint the anymore it died and i do not know why i should be happy glad but honestly speaking it is the opposite and i do not get why,whats wrong with me..oh!another thing got a job and the is distance between us at once i would make time but recently i am forever busy and working over time he used to make time too but lately its like we living in two different worlds and aint no way we can bring them back to one.......WHATS GOING ON.

[shawty106]

just need to end things i know but have been trying to do so in a while and i think he has too but has not been easy to let go,last time we spent time together we were writing a letter to my family asking for my hand in marriage and now it is over just like that...what started bad will end bad i believe that now

[specialmom]

Hi there.  well, it sounds like you know what you need to do.  Ending this will be best for you it appears and you can then think about what you want next time around.  Try not to repeat this mistake---  stick with men that are not attached to any other person.  good luck

[shawty106]

thanks guys and you all are true the thrill aint there anymore i gues he was fascinated by the fact that he has two women in his life and me could not say no to all the attention i got from him he was fun to hang around with but now it aint working out.

[shawty106]

thanks Londres70 i know i needs to do that but you got to understand it was not planned like i said,i made a friend when i got here he was that friend did not to fall for him,but throught the rough patches i had to deal with he was there understood me better than anyone else because we share a similar past.so i gues i got comfortable with him because i do not just open up with anyone but him it was different.and it did become an issue for me would ask myself to why would i do that to another sister, and what if it happend to me how would i fell but he would come sweet talk me make me laugh and i would forget my thoughts and live again.

[Nighthawk61]

Ditto, the "thrill" is gone.

Hopefully Karma will even the playing field, fully, and give this poor woman her dream husband, quickly and no more pain is spent on such unworthiness.  Please God, keep this young lady and her poor little baby in your healing hands, to get through this, to not fall into a similar trap, and to move on to a mature, spiritual, person with proper morals and values.  

[Londres70]

Let me say this......what usually starts bad ends bad.  Your relationship really never had a chance because of the way it was begun.  

I would say the thrill is "gone" because he is no longer with this other woman and that was the "excitement" for you.  

My advice would be to do some DEEP soul searching and figure out why you didn't have any qualms about getting involved with a man who was already with someone with a child.  You should do this by yourself of course.  

Not surprised your relationship isn't working out.  Not at all.

[TTinKKerBBell]

It was a little hard to follow Your post but I think I understood the part that matters:

You BOTH cheated on another Woman AND Their Child - for 2 years!!    Apparantly He was bringing You to Their home where You would see the "perfect (??!!) family portrait".  

You both know that You are both capable of cheating on a relationship - not a good way to start.  

[Life360_Dave]

Hi and welcome. Sounds like he was a challenge for you and once you got him the thrill was gone. You know yourself better than us, what do you think happened?