how do you tell for real how much someone likes/loves you?

[curly13]

this is kind of a strange question. basically ive found a nice understanding guy who ive been with now for 3 1/2 months. I fear i am falling (not that its a bad thing but compared to the previous relationship where it was 3 months and he spent that time saying i was awesome then cheated on me, i do worry!) I have finally felt comfortable and myself in a relationship with someone who is absolutely amazing. hes decent, sensitive, caring and it seems cant get enough of me. for once i have someone who wants to be with me always. i know its not worth overthinking things but i wonder how strong a relationship can get in such a small time. ive had comments saying we moved relatively fast but to me it just felt natural . hes made comments about being together for a very long time. im not sure whether its the right thing to say the L word yet though. he said he loves when i do things or loves when i am with him like hes trying to express more but never 'i love you'. when is the right time to say you love someone? (i see love and in-love as different things so im not saying we're in love yet).
also how can i feel secure he isnt just going to change his mind. is 4 months long enough to really know whether youre keen on someone or not? how do you show youre keen without looking possessive and how can you read that theyre keen?

[luvzherman]

me and my boyfrend have only been together 4mnths also and he is always telling me he loves me and i very much love him 2, as of how to tell when the "time is right" it is different for every relationship u just know when the right time is it is hasrd to explain but u just feel the time is right and b4 u know it the words r just popping out of ur mouth :) luck luvzherman

[mami1323]

You see, I've always been the one to say it first and it has never gone well for me.  So my advice, wait until he proclaims it first.  Relax and try to enjoy this relationship.  No need to rush into anything.  

[jo929]

You will just have to wait untill he declares himself  luck  jo

[Judy246]

The relationship is in the very early stages and the "I love you or I'm falling in love with you", will happen at the right time and naturally. The past is the past and put that completely behind you. If he is providing the physical and emotional support that you are looking for or need, then appreciate the moments and stop overthinking. It will happen naturally. Enjoy each day with him and once you both feel exclusive and committed to one another, it will happen. He sounds like a catch, so just be yourself and he will love you for who you are and everything else will fall into place naturally. Good luck, Judy

[megochick101]

Here are your words : "a nice understanding guy" "He's decent, sensitive, caring, and can't get enough of me" "wants to be with me always"

That sounds to me like a man who really cares for you, and is moving towards loving you, if he hasn't already. 4 months may seem like a short time to love someone, but it all depends on your circumstances. Does he tell you about himself, his childhood, and want he wants for the future? Does he make plans with you for future times? Can you see yourself with him in the future? Does he really pay attention when your talking to him, and respect what you say?

Sorry about all the questions but i think they'll help you, and i think you'll know when to tell him how you feel, and it doesn't hurt to try and show him either.