is he gay?????

[sma_nyk]

Am so CONFUSED please help me out......
I am 26 and my husband is 38 we have been married one and half year it was an arranged marriage after 3 months of marriage i came to know that my husband was having an affair with another woman and that he has a huge loan on his head he has broken off with that woman now and says he will never go back to her..then after that i found him chatting to guys saying he is top and wants to meet them and has also met few guys when i found out he again said sorry and said he will never do it again ....but now again i have found him chatting with other guys online  he even saw a crossdresser on line naked and gave so many compilments when i asked him is he gay he says no he is bi .....i have tried to satisfy him in all ways but he likes doogy style and i always feel he likes doing it with guys .....is a bi man or gay????what do i do am so confused this time if i ask him again he will say he is bi but by him chatting with others is like cheating na i dont know what to do i cant trust him again he has broken my trust so many times and after this i will never be able to catch him as he will agin creat another id what do i do please answer my question and hepl me

[AnnieBrooke]

Can you leave?  What is the cultural basis of the arranged marriage?  If a man is cheating, his wife has every reason to leave, even if he were just cheating with a woman and none of this bi or gay stuff involved.  Given that it was an arranged marriage, I assume it is a very traditional culture?  If so, he should let you have a divorce because he would not want the fact or issue of his being gay (or bi) out there.  

[thehitman357]

Ok, first. He is bi. Second. He is having sex with these guys.  You need to stop having unprotected sex with your husband and go get tested for HIV.  For a conclusive test, it has to be done 3 months after your last unprotected encounter with your husband.  Your husband may be having unprotected sex with these men and could easily catch HIV.  This is a very dangerous situation.  I would leave the marriage for your safety and peace of mind.  Good luck.

[lovemykids465]

In my opinion of you are bi- you are still gay but that is just my personal opinion. I am sorry you are going through this.   You say this is an arranged marriage, is there any way you can get out of it. I do not know where you are from and if you can divorce or not. I am not one for people just calling it quits but in this situation I would.