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So I really need help on what to do I'm so torn... I've been with my Bf for 6 years now n we have a 4mo old baby girl .. he works every night on weekdays from 4-1am... every single time I try to spend time with him his dad either tells him to come home or yells at me and tells me to leave. I don't ever get time with him... he don't seem to want to stand up and be a man. He has a responsibility twards us and he always promised and leaves us hanging just because his daddy gets pissed off and tells him to come home. He listens every single time and I'm so freaking tired of him acting like a little boy. He won't step up and be here for us.... I love him but I don't know what to do I can't handle how things are
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You both seem young. He won't grow up until he wants to or feels he can. Until then, try to find help and support outside of him. If you haven't, join a church or a meetup.com group for young mothers. Maybe google support groups in your area too. Tell him you love him and need his support, but  if you wait around for him to grow up your baby will sit around waiting for him too instead of focusing on being happy and growing up. You can still love and support your bf, you just don't have to put him in front of all the other stuff you need to do for your baby. Hopefully your BF will shape up, but if he doesn't you'll be around people who love and support both of you.
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Thank you so much for that ♡
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13167 tn?1327194124
welovenewbabies,  have you been locked out of your account so you started a new one?  Your story seems so very similar to another poster.  Have you posted here under another name?
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Hi there.  Yes, Saramay.  I am sorry that nothing has changed hon between you and your boyfriend.  I don't know if it will but am doubtful at this point.  There is nothing you can do to change it because you have tried different things.  Wishing you the best of luck.  
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