you sound like you have tried, seek some concilling urself, this has been a long and difficult time to deal with, no one not even her can say what she really feels because she has a personality problem, she will be treated for that, it sounds like you've tried hard with her but she has had a bad life too and its not right to take it out on you, you've done nothing wrong but love her, im not suprised she has ptsd with what happened, its horrible to say but she is badly damaged isnt she? i hope she prosecuted that slimball for what he did
You sound like you still love her. You sound very hurt and confused. SS disability is doable but you must keep at it. I think someone told me you will automatically be denied twice and usually the third time it goes thru. Not sure how true that is, but that is what I have heard... I think you have two options here based on how you feel. If you still love her, communication is key, whether she likes it or not. If this is not possible on your part, then you must distance yourself and break the ties that bind you together. First and foremost, you must understand that you did not create her situation as sad as it is. Secondly, you cannot fix her. You either take her the way she is and love her unconditionally or you get out of the situation and put it behind you. I know nothing is as cut and dry as this and all those emotions get in the way. But truly, it will be one way or the other in the end. I hope you work this out and things improve for you. For your sake I would try to round up a counselor, maybe as the above poster suggested thru the health department.
I guess I'd take whatever steps are needed to be sure that if you do die, she won't inherit on the life insurance. Any possibility of counseling help for you? That's a big list to lay out, and a pro could help you talk it through. There might be some low-cost or no-cost counseling available through the county's health department.