meddling family

[sunny_smurf]

i don't know how to tell my husband that his family is too meddlesome.

Thing is i know they don't like me, especially his mother. She admitted that when i came into his life i took her best friend away from her and now she has nobody to turn to. His Aunt, (mother's sister) is of the opinion that I intentionally put him against his mother.We have been living on out own for close to a year now and even though his mother lives about an hour away from us, she calls him daily to find out how he slept or if he ate,EVERYDAY..... his aunt calls at least 2 times a week to find out what we have been up to and if we are getting into trouble.....These things bug me a bit but i can still tolerate because i understand that as a mother she is worried about her son and she is just concerned.

However that is not all that they do. they ask very rudely about our finances and about our spending patterns. If my husband buys me a pair of shoes, she demands that he buy her a a pair too. if he pays off my credit cards he has to do the same for her too.

Now i know money was a bit tight with his mother so he used to help out with the bills every now and again, but truth is she is more than able to pay her bills as she has gotten a promotion in her job, but refuses to tell him as he would know about the increase. She has even made snide comments to me about if he pays the bills for me, she going to make sure he does the same for her.......

I have however reached  my breaking point now. His mother took a bank loan recently and i overheard the aunt advising  him to make the loan payments for his mother.

What should i do i how should i tell him about them always meddling in our affairs?

[teko]

sunnysmurf needs to listen to sweetheart because if sunnsmurf doesnt wake up she is going to be walking in sweethearts shoes very soon. sunnysmurf, if your bf is sleeping with his mother, why are you still there?

[sweetheart0686]

Hi, r u guys married? And how old r u guys?

I'm kinda going thru the same thing however its my bf n my family that doesn't like eachother. I've been outt on my own since I was 18. I'm 24 wit 2children n my mom tries to run my life n tell me where to live n how to raise my children.. my bf hates it!! My advice... is this tell him how u feel... if ur married ur bills r his also... so him "paying" urs is him paying his... do u guys put ur money together or is it his n urs separate?

[RockRose]

This is beginning to look like  fetish post.  

[specialmom]

Hi sunny smurf.  Well, I'm tryin to figure out how this posts correlates with your last one in which you talked about your boyfriend sleeping with his mother still and her acting like a jealous girlfriend.  

I'm having a hard time keeping up with the problems you have with this boyfriend.  

You are not married.  This is the time in which we evaluate things in order to decide if we should continue the relationship or not.  

So, what do you think I'm going to say?  There is no reason to continue dating him.  

If he does not feel the need to change the dynamics between himself and his family, you can't.  So, move on.  Please.