Hello Mikeraj90
I think you have the chance to love and be loved in return.
What you are experiencing is not easy, but her too
She is anxious about your future, your inaction, from his point of view: so be reassuring. Take concrete steps for your own life. As others advised you before, Take courses or made a concrete plan of your project.
She prefers that you find a job, insist on your project but make it concrete: for example, if in the space of a year it doesn’t work then you will take a job as she wants, but before do your best.
A wedding preparation period is stressful for any couple, while in your case it is easy understanding, she’s not involved in the preparations and it’s a source of anxiety.
But that doesn’t mean you should let her go: it takes a lot of effort on your part, but be calm, reassuring and positive, and if she exceeds the bounds made her noticed gently but firmly: she doesn’t wait you to tell her all the time yes, but she wants to be able to count on you.
God speed.
Are you expecting to wait to work until your wife set's you up in a company of your own? Have you thought about going back to school yourself, so that you can make your dream a reality? I think your fiance would respect that action on your part. You can't expect to go from 0 to 120 in six seconds. You have to plan for your success. My son is taking a construction engineering course, and then then.. because he wants to open his own company , he is planning to take an architectural component so he can also do the design work for construction jobs. It takes planning to be your own boss, but it well worth the effort.
Ditto SM......well said.
The molding and motivation should come from within. No woman should be pushing her agenda on you.
Maybe she came into your life to show you what you don't want?
Love her and love yourself enough to let this go. Loving someone doesn't always mean it's best that you stay with that person.
I think it is hard to maintain a relationship in which you feel like you'll never measure up. It leads to a life time of bitterness in my observation. I think I'd find a better match that makes you HAPPY and doesn't have 'molding' you and pushing you as part of her agenda. We need to do that for ourselves to be fulfilled. good luck
Thank you, she is the best thing ever happened to me:)
This is so wrong in so many ways............fighting when together, living in different countries, unemployment on your behalf, she's telling you what you need to do, you live at home with mom and dad, she's stressed with her job, etc.
Why are you two even planning a wedding with all this going on?
You two are at different places in life and you should call the wedding off and end this relationship.
Hi also, my wife of 25 years treats me the same and 99% of the time she is right so i suspect its the same with you. Your easy going and laid back and she is a go getter and very organized. I think opposties attract and better to be pushed and prodded than to live a wasteful life. She only has good intentions and wants you to be a success also. I would stick with her as shes probably the best thing that has ever happened to you.
Ask yourself a question, would you rather be with a person who doesnot care and is lazy and it would be up to you to motivate? I think not!
Hi there. Sorry to hear about your difficult time. Well, if you've always fought when together and are only peaceful when you are away from one another . . . might be a sign that this relationship is not meant to be. If you'd lived closer together all along, it would probably have fizzled out completely by now. So, go ahead and end this so you can get on with your life. good luck