Hi im 27 and my husband is 28 we've been together 11 years, and married 5 with 4 children together. Our relationship started off with us having sex 1 to 3 times a day just about everyday, until our first child then once a day until we had our last 2 (twins). Having 4 children knocked us down to 1 to 3 times a week. Our children are now 9, 8, and the twins are about to be 7. Within the last year or so we've dramatically went down to once a month if that and there is no passion, no emotion, and it's become quite forceful to get my husband to want to have sex with me. I pretty much beg for it, i can't even get a smack on the *** every once in awhile to say he still finds me attractive. When i talk to him about it he says he's too tired or he didn't realize that sex has to be such a big part of our relationship. He recently told me he noticed i picked up a few pounds it hurt a little but i didn't let it bother me because he's a fool to not notice that i noticed it first so my eating habits changed and i go to the gym, so i've actually been losing weight.
My sexual desire is very overwhelming and I personally dont feel unattractive but he makes me feel that he doesn't find me attractive. Other men hit on me but i try not to let that matter because he is the only one who should. I don't want to cheat so i have a bag full of toys but it's not at all the same.
I dont know what to do.