I am 18 yo male and gay. I have met an older male about a year ago and plan to move in with him. He also happens to be a colleague at my place of employment.
I presently live at home with my parents (who would be pleased to see the back of me I am sure) and my sister who has just turned 11.
I have always had a very close relationship with sis and I still like her a lot, but things have become seriously difficult since she learned that I planned to move out. We have separate bedrooms now; until a year ago we shared a bedroom with separate beds. From the age of about four she has climbed into bed beside me at night because she was cold, or had bad dreams, or for cuddles. At no time was she interfered with sexually. We have always kissed a lot and had pretend wresting matches, the usual kind of things siblings get up to. We never at any time as far as I can remember played ‘doctors’ or anything of the sort. We camped out in the garden occasionally and I babysat her a lot. I have to repeat this: at no time was she molested by me.
In the past year she had become more persistently possessive and aggressive with me. She tries to tongue me when we kiss, she comes into my bed naked, she straddles me when I sit watching television even when my parents are there, and gropes my genitals when they are not. She cries when I reprimand her or when I go out at night. She says I no longer love her, but I do love her intensely, but not in a sexual way, and I would do anything for her. I try to tell her that I am gay, but she simply does not believe me.
Yesterday she threatened to complain to my parents to tell them that I have been doing sexual things and molesting her when we are alone if I move in with my friend. She also threatened to make complaints to her teachers at school about me and tell her classmates that we have been lovers. I am tempted to treat these as empty threats, but she has changed in the past year and I am sure she could do a lot of damage.
Any suggestions?