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[wyrpamatz]

I've mentioned before that we are living with my MIL to save up $ for a home. Well now its been three weeks that I've set my mind into losing weight. I went from 158lbs to 152lbs. And I stop eating at 6pm. And she always ask me if I want to eat like at 7 or so and I always say no. So she starts making fun. Of me bc I'm trying to eat healthier and trying to lose some extra weight. It kind of upsets me bc instead of her being happy for me that I want to be healthy all I get is her making fun of me as well as my FIL and my husband doesn't say anything to them about it. And I just ignore her and don't say anything bc I don't want any drama. And it makes me feel bad bc it makes me feel like I can't get to my goal weight bc of negative remarks...

[wyrpamatz]

I cook dinner everyday for everybody and I clean the house everyday bc I'm not working right now so I like to help out in that way. And I do prepare my own dinner. But you guys are right, we should be looking at a place to move out to instead of being here bc we really can't do anything here w/out being judged or lectured about what we should do. Thank you ladies.

[Londres70]

"And I stop eating at 6pm. And she always ask me if I want to eat like at 7 or so and I always say no."........Well, I don't understand why the dinner hour should revolve around one person.  Not sure why you can't prepare your own meal before 6 PM.  Medically speaking, there is nothing that can confirm you will lose more weight not eating after 6 PM anyways.  

"And it makes me feel bad bc it makes me feel like I can't get to my goal weight bc of negative remarks... ".......There are LOADS of people who have said negative remarks to me over the years, but I can assure you I didn't let their remarks determine if I am successful or not at something I want.  If you don't get to your goal weight it will be because of you not them.  

"And I just ignore her and don't say anything bc I don't want any drama.".......This is what you should do; pick your battles wisely.  Remember, you are staying in HER house/home.

I would recommend you and hubby push harder to get your own home soon.  You are staying with your MIL and you have to remember it is her home and she can say or do what she wants.  Be grateful she is helping you both out.  

[specialmom]

I agree with above.  Your an adult and his mother is doing the two of you a favor.  A huge one.  It's nice to save money but not worth living like children in a parents home.  

So, it is kind of rude if the rest of the family is eating at 7.  It may irk her.  I think it would me if I was making a dinner and someone always at an hour before I served it.  Eating a diet of healthy lean protein, vegis and fruit is key.  And I don't think it would make any difference to eat at 7 verses 6 in terms of controlling weight (congrats on the recent loss. )  

Anyway, I agree that it is time to look and consider moving out as soon as possible.  I think you'll be much happier.  

[nursegirl6572]

Pick your battles, if it's not ill intentioned and just meant as a joke, or teasing, then try to let it slide off your back.  Some things just aren't worth our energy.

Do you guys have a timeline as to when you're buying your house and can move out?  Maybe it's time to start looking!

[RockRose]

It might be time for you to move out from your mother in laws house so you can save money.

As an adult,  it's probably time to move on and not be supported anymore.