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what is with him???

me and my boyfriend spent the day together saturday and we decided to go get some lunch.  We went to the drive-thru which seemed to be pretty busy. it just so happened that between the car in front of us and us there was the exit. we were sitting there talking laughing waiting and my ex and his coworker came out of the restaurant and as he walked in front of my boyfriends truck he looked at me and he looked at my boyfriend "like he was stupid". that made my boyfriend mad. my ex broke up with me then put this sad song on his myspace and make this big ol show as if i broke up with him.  and he claims he's so happy with his girlfriend now and wants to get engaged and all this jazz. i've found him passing by my house on more than one occassion and he litterally had no business being there b/c he was trying to get to a location on the other side of the subdivison. and you can't go thru b/c it's a deadend. i don't know why this bothers me so. and i don't know why he looked at us like this. i guess i'm just trying to find closure. i'm very happy with my current boyfriend and we are taking things slow b/c he and i have been hurt many times. but we are happy with each other and would like to see us together long term. i don't know why this thing with my ex bothers me so. i mean maybe it's b/c when he broke up with me i didn't expect a thing and was completely blindsided...?? i just don't know.
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145992 tn?1341345074
Ah, ok.  Well if I were you I wouldn't read too much into it and just focus your attention on this new relationship.  It seems like this is going well and that is what is important that this new guy treats you good.  Don't worry too much about the ex, he's an ex for a reason.  Good luck.
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yes the guy i'm with now is a new boyfriend before that was the mean one and before that is the ex in this story.
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145992 tn?1341345074
So this is the ex before the ex that was abusive?  So the guy you are with now is a new boyfriend?  I'm so confused.
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Well being a man I know that if I broke up with a woman it would be because i wanted to. But some people make mistakes, maybe he made a mistake and wants you back but doesn't want to show you that he made a mistake and wants you to come back to him.
Or he could just be a jackass. I vote that he is just a jackass and you should forget that he ever existed and not worry about what he does unless he does something that scares you.
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no the one before that
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145992 tn?1341345074
Is this the ex that was controlling and verbally abusive?
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668927 tn?1225727524
I wouldn't try to obsess over it to much, really. Boys will be boys (not saying girls don't do the same things). But in all reality, he is probably a very territorial person. Though your Ex broke up with you and doesn't want to be with you, and is supposedly happy with his new girlfriend...it doesn't mean he wants another guy taking his place. Especially someone he knows that you like a lot and spend much of your time with. I think it is extremely unfair and selfish of your Ex to play with your emotions and your mind the way he is. It's probably just out of pure jealously. Don't fret, just be happy :) :)
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