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Am I at a risk for STD/HIV (14 days after spending a few hours with a CSW)

2 weeks back, I met a CSW and didn't have any penetrative sex as I am afraid. But what happened was she fingered her vagina in front of me and I am sure her vagina had vaginal juices and after that she gave me handjob. She asked me to use condom for blowjob but I said I dont want a blowjob, only hand job and she did that without condom.

Is there any STD or HIV risk? Her vagina and her whole body looked without any cold sore and there was no tears marks etc on her whole body.

Stupid enough, I also fingered her vagina and anal hole with the bare fingers and the inside of vagina definitely was very wet. I did handjob after that to myself in front of her without washing my hands.

Am I at any risk of STD or HIV? The CSW said she is free from any HIV/STD and she does blowjob and all vaginal/anal penetration always with a condom as she cant risk catching anything. I also kissed and licked her breasts for a while. I didnt do any mouth to mouth kiss considering it to be unsafe.

So to summarize:

1) Handjob by the CSW and myself with unprotected finger inserted for a few minutes inside vagina and anal hole of a CSW who said she has no STD/HIV etc.
2) Kissing on breasts. She said she was breastfeeding these days to a baby of her.
3) The CSW looked perfectly healthy and had no sore marks etc anywhere on her body and she said she always uses condoms while vaginal sex and blowjobs as she wants to remain healthy.
4) I have no indications anywhere on my body or genital or mouth for any sores etc. I did had a very heavy headache and upset stomach since day # 13. I took medicine and head ache is ok but upset stomach is there for 2 days now.

Please let me know if I should be worried about any STD or HIV.
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207091 tn?1337709493
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Okay, so listen. I know you're anxious, but you've asked a lot of questions about what is and isn't a risk.

1) Here are some posts from our experts (when we had them) that may help -

https://www.medhelp.org/posts/STDs/Nervous-about-mutual-masturbation/show/2183476

https://www.medhelp.org/posts/STDs/Mutual-Masturbation-STD/show/1968429

https://www.medhelp.org/posts/STDs/mutual-masturbation-sti/show/1858544

https://www.medhelp.org/posts/STDs/Understanding-the-risks-of-mutual-fingering/show/1516796

https://www.medhelp.org/posts/HIV---Prevention/Vaginal-fluid-on-hand-touched-inside-of-condom-and-head-of-penis/show/1119533 - read this thread thoroughly. There is an excellent explanation about why certain activities are not risks, and why others are.

2) See the last post above, but licking breasts is not a risk if she was not lactating, which you do not mention and you would have absolutely noticed if she was. She would also not let you take her baby's food.

3) This is a good sign, though it doesn't matter because you didn't do anything that would put you at risk.

4) No STD causes an upset stomach or a quick headache, no matter how bad it is.

So rest assured that you had no risk, that handjobs, fingering, touching doesn't transmit STDs. Licking breasts doesn't either.

So to summarize, you need to have mouth to genital, mouth to anal, genital to genital or genital to anal contact in order to transmit an STD. You had none of these things.

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