I'm sorry to say this, but I am suspicious you have caught genital herpes. See a doctor or clinic right away, for sure in the next day or two -- maybe even this afternoon, especially if you're in the west. There is effective treatment for herpes to speed improvement, but the longer you wait the less effective it is. In additon, the diagnosis is more accurate the sooner the exam and testing are done.
When you are examined, be sure they test your genital area sore(s) for the herpes virus, preferably using the PCR test. A culture test is OK if that's all they have available, but definitely do not do only a blood test. (A herpes blood test might be a good idea, as a baseline for comparison with a later blood specimen. But not as the only test to diagnose possible new herpes.)
But don't worry about HIV. The chance a partner like yours has herpes is high, but there is almost no chance he has HIV. And your symptoms are not at all like a new HIV infection.
Having said all that, don't panic! As fearsome as herpes may seem, in fact most cases end up being no big deal in the long run. Keep a cool head, but do get professionally examined as soon as you can.
Please return and let us know the outcome after you have been examined. Best wishes and good luck to you!
If confused by my testing advice, consider printing out my reply and taking it with you when you see a doctor or clinic.
And by the way, I believe the exposure you describe qualifies as sexual assualt. I'm not a legal expert of course, but I recommend you also discuss this aspect with the doctor or clinic you see.
Thank you so much for your response. I've been driving myself crazy by searching the internet for anything and everything it could be but as much as I was hoping to get a curable answer I think you're right after all. I'm making an appt with my gyn tomorrow morning. Hopefully they can squeeze me in soon! Also is it possible that it could just be a abscess?
And also my mother thought it was sexual assault too. She asked if I wanted to press charges but I really just don't want to even think about this situation ever again after I figure out what I have so I'm choosing not to press charges or even talk to him about any of this.
Also if it is herpes would it be type 1 or type 2?
I'm sorry I just have so many questions
I'm glad you're seeking care. If you tell the office when you call that you think you have initial herpes and you're in serious pain, they should find a way to see you the same day.
The likely virus type depends on more sexual exposure details. Does "forced himself on me as well" mean oral, genital or both?
It means orally but he kept trying to rub his genitils on mine...so it could probably count for both, but he never actually succeeded with having inter course with me.
I'll predict HSV1. If so (and if you have herpes), it will be relatively good news. Genital HSV1 is much less a problem going forward -- few recurrent outbreaks (maybe none) and little chance of infecting future partners. This is why it is so important to have tests to learn the virus type. Make sure they do a swab test from your genital lesions.