I need help! Anxiety std question

[Jennylopdam]

Hello so ive been on here in the past. My story is Im a married woman and 6 months ago I preformed fellatio on a married man. After 21 days of exposure i got a throat std swab for gonnoreah and chlamydia. It was negative.well fast foward 6 months later my husband has been having minor period of bed wetting at night. He has no pain ,discharge , or burning. Nothing at all. Just pees alittle when he sleep. My question is could he have got something from me? Where my test accurate at 21 days?

[auntiejessi]

Totally agree with Pax. Your tests were conclusively negative, and bed wetting isn't a symptom of an STD.

I'd also suggest a visit with his doctor, and would imagine that a prostate exam is a good idea.

You can let go of the anxiety of STDs now. :)

[Jennylopdam]

Is it weird that 1 day after sex i feel like i have bad pains and feeling of uti?

[Jennylopdam]

This has been an insane time for me:/

[Jennylopdam]

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[auntiejessi]

You could have a UTI, but it would have nothing to do with the oral sex you performed 6 months ago. You tested negative for STDs from that encounter.

You need to find a way to let this go. If that's through therapy, then do that. Guilt doesn't equal risk. Anxiety doesn't, either.

I don't know if this is what you are doing, but there is something called catastrophic thinking. It means you have thoughts like, "I did the worst thing ever and cheated on my spouse. It's horrible, and I deserve the worst. Oh my god, what if I got an STD from this? What if he gets it? What if I have given the person I love most an infection because I am so bad? I can never forgive myself for this, and I'll have ruined everything."

It might not be exactly those thoughts, but something along those lines. If you think anything like that, please get therapy.

And if your feelings of a UTI linger for more than a day or two, see your doctor or go to an urgent care. It could just be a UTI, which has nothing to do with anything, and just happens. You could have had the same symptoms today if you didn't have sex yesterday.

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2017/dec/29/stop-catastrophising-expert-guide-psychologist

[Jennylopdam]

Thank you auntie jessie for always answering back.I guess I am castratrophising thinking. What im thinking is the false negative result. Amd the fact that i had something in my throat and when I gave my husband oral i transmitted something. And then had sex and caught gonoreah or chlamydia. Thats what my mind keeps telling me. Im sorry for burdening you with questions. I guess it is the guilt.

[Jennylopdam]

I guess I do need help.  He has gotten better and relized that drinking tea too late was causing his peeing at night. Just dont know how i got uti feeling.

[auntiejessi]

Lots and lots of things cause that - not drinking enough water, drinking too much caffeine and/or too much alcohol, too much juice, carbonated drinks, vaginal dryness, a lot of sex, etc.

A UTI can also give you that feeling.

If you are concerned about a false negative, and thinking that you have gonorrhea or chlamydia now, you can go get tested and find out, and put your mind to rest. If that's what it takes to find peace, then do that.

[Paxiled]

I would say he needs to see a doctor and get diagnosed if it's a big problem for him.  You don't say how old he is, it could be the beginning of that old enlarged prostate starting to show it's ugly head, but who knows?  Meaning, it really doesn't matter what you did, it was a relatively low risk activity, but you can't diagnose your husband on the internet.  So again, if he has a health problem, he needs to see someone about it.  Now. sometimes problems are so minor and doctors are so major that we just live with things, so that's your husband's call, but for you to worry about it out of guilt won't help him any, or you.  Peace.