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How high are my risks of getting an sti?

I gave fellatio for 5 seconds. He did not ejaculate. It was one time and I have had no other partners. I am an older female. I know there are risks of Sti, but trying to calm myself. What are the chances of sti? I do plan on being checked.
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I'm going to give you the risks of giving unprotected oral sex to a penis, but please keep in mind that you really aren't at any kind of risk if it was for only 5 seconds. I wouldn't worry at all if I were you.

Giving oral sex to someone with a penis puts you at risk for oral gonorrhea and syphilis. Syphilis isn't that common, and your partner would have had to have a sore that your mouth came into contact with to transmit it. You would get a sore in your mouth anywhere from 10-90 days, with 21 days being the average. You can test for this at 6 weeks.

Oral gonorrhea doesn't usually have symptoms, but if you got them, it would be a sore, red throat, maybe a fever, maybe swollen glands. If you get symptoms, they usually appear within 7-21 days. You can get a throat swab for this at about 5 days.

There is a risk here, but oral sex is lower risk than intercourse. Given that you only performed oral for about 5 seconds, I wouldn't worry at all.

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Thank you for your quick response! I have an app in 2 days for piece of mind (hopefully).
Let us know how it goes. :)
I have one more question! The nurse wrote back who will be giving the test. She made it sound like there was a good chance. Why is there so much conflicting information out there. Could it be because she has to say that?? Sorry for all the questions!
I don't know why she said that. My guess is that she has no idea about STDs. If she works for a primary care doc, she probably doesn't. To be fair, primary care docs have to keep current with all kinds of things, and STDs fall behind most of the time.

In theory, it's possible that you could get something, but in reality, your chances just aren't high at all.

And her bedside manner sucks. Why would she try to freak a patient out? Sigh. Hang in there. You're going to be fine. Oral gonorrhea isn't that common, and syphilis isn't common in general. They may try to do other testing, and if your insurance pays for it, just let them so you can get done what you need to. You do NOT need genital testing, though, so there's no need for that. If they want to run an oral chlamydia test, that's fine. It will all be done from the same swab. They may try to get you to an HIV test, which is absolutely not needed, but if they have a rapid oral swab test, and you feel it will make them happy and let you out sooner, just let them do it.

Don't let them do any hepatitis testing. You don't need it, and your insurance company doesn't need to bear the cost of that if you don't need it.

So many docs get all alarmist, and it's crazy.
I can’t thank you enough for your help!! I will let you know how the test goes.
You're welcome. :) Good luck!
Hi Auntiejessi. Sorry for commenting again. I’m about to head to my test. Any last words of encouragement are needed!! So stressed over this!!
Yep, remember that this was really, really, really low (if any) risk. You could also get struck by lighting on your way to the test, and maybe win the lottery, too. The chances are about the same. :)
Thank you :)
I had my test. It was a free clinic and they were great with me. Urine, blood and swab from below test. Results will come in 2 weeks!!!

They were able to give me results for Trich, which came out negative.

She said my urine was more cloudy than normal?? Not sure what she meant by that.
Cloudy urine can indicate a ton of things - a UTI, dehydration, kidney stones or kidney infection, etc., etc.

You only needed oral testing from this encounter - you gave oral sex (such as it was), so any infection you have would be oral. It's cool if you wanted to test for everything if it's been awhile since you've tested, but did they do any oral testing? You can't get a genital infection from giving oral sex.

They did not do any oral testing. Said they don’t do that. Do I need to go get an oral test?
I wouldn't bother, honestly. You gave oral sex for 5 seconds. The risk here is so low that I wouldn't run out and test. I wouldn't give it a second thought.

Oral sex is lower risk than vaginal or anal sex, and since you only did it for a few seconds, it's not worth testing. Oral gonorrhea isn't common, and syphilis is less common than gonorrhea.
Oh, and the blood test you took was probably for HIV and syphilis, so really the only thing missed is oral gonorrhea. I wouldn't worry about it at all. The blood test for syphilis will find it no matter where it is.
I really appreciate the time you spend on here with everybody. You have been my saving grace this week. I hope you know you are making a difference!! :)
Aww thanks. It's nice to hear. :)

I'm sure your results will be negative, but let us know when they come in, or if you have any questions in the meantime.
Hi auntiejessie. These two weeks while I await results are going to be horrible!

When I said I had no other partners, I failed to mention I have a spouse (did not disclose that on purpose. No other encounters outside the one from my spouse). I’m confident he has not been with anybody else.

I’m letting my anxiety get to me, at least I hope that’s what it is. I now have what I think is a hemorrhoid that is uncomfortable. (Bump on anis) Some pain down there, not sure if it’s coming from anus region or vagina since they are so close. When I pee sometimes I can see clear liquid come out that makes the per cloudy. I know there are many factors that can cause that (it I test cane out negative). My pee does not sting when I urine.

Now I’m worried I infected my spouse and am now having genital symptoms. Yes, google is my enemy right now.

I know my risk was low as you stated. Not even sure what I’m hoping you can tell me, just still worried.

Thanks for your patience with me. I’ll try and stop posting for a while!!
Any genital symptoms you have are not related to this encounter. They can't be. Your only exposure was to your mouth, so your only infection symptoms would be in your mouth.

I'm glad you told me about your spouse, because your anxiety makes more sense now. Remember that guilt doesn't equal risk.

Try increasing your water intake and see if that helps. You may be getting a common urinary tract infection, which is just coincidence. If the pain near your anus doesn't go away, get that checked. It's simply not related to this encounter - it just can't be, medically and scientifically.

I don't know if you're doing this, but it may help - https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2017/dec/29/stop-catastrophising-expert-guide-psychologist
Wow.  I went to that site and it’s me all over (scary). I will try following the steps outlined in the article. Thank you for your continued support and guidance. I can assure you I won’t post anything else until results come in!
You're welcome! If it helps, you aren't alone. This forum is full of people just like you. It's not an uncommon reaction. Don't hesitate to reach out for help if you need it. Therapy is a wonderful thing. :)
I just got my results and they are negative!! I really want you to know how much you have helped me through this. I have felt so alone and you brought me so much comfort and support. Thank you for making such a big difference in a strangers life. I will always be grateful for you helping me through this horrible time in my life.
Aww you're welcome, and I'm glad to help. Congrats on the negative tests, and we're always here if you need us. :)
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