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Every now and again a seem to do something stupid and I did just over two weeks ago. I had a naked body to body massage. The girl rubbed her body over my back and front for about 20 minutes. She rubbed her vagina on by back, buttocks and front. I am reasonably sure her vagina did not touch my penis but cannot be sure. She then sat between my legs and gave me a hand job with oil. I am also worried about the cleanliness of the towel I laid on and used after showering. Is this a risk?
To be honest I didnt really enjoy it and a week later I started to feel pain in my penis shaft. It is a sort of burning that is not there first thing in the morning when I get up put starts within an hour and gets worse during the day. It comes and goes but can be very painful and upsetting. There is no pain when I pee but I do get pains afterwards.
I am trying to tell myself this is stress related but am finding it difficult to believe that the very real pain is in my head. Could this just be stress? have you ever heard of this sort of thing manifesting itself due to guilt? I am literately exhausted from the worry
Is what I describe a risk and if so are the type of infections I could have caught have the symptoms I describe?
Any help you can give would be very much appreciated
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If she didn't perform oral sex on you, or you didn't have sex with her, and her vagina didn't touch your penis, you can't have an STD. Towels don't transmit STDs (nor do sheets, etc.).

You could, however, be having a reaction or have an infection from the oil getting in your urethra. Depending on the pain level, you might want to see your doctor soon for this. If it's not bad, try increasing your water for a few days and see if you can flush it out, then go to the doc if it doesn't improve.

Remember that guilt doesn't equal risk.
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Thanks for the very quick reply which is reassuring. I honestly believe/hope this is just anxiety. Having read through the forum I believe you must get so tired of answering these sort of questions. Makes me even more appreciate your time
I would just like to ask a couple of followup questions if I may and then I will be gone!
I dont believe my genitals touched hers and if they did it would have been a brief brush but could you tell me if my symtoms are representative of an sti and if so which 0ne?
Also I understand this isn't exactly a councing forum but have you experience of people talking themselves into experiencing symtoms that seem reall? I am just curious because I can see that my exposure was no/low risk but feel as if I have very uncomfortable sensations on my genital area. I do by the way accept what you said about irritation from the oil and will follow your advice
Thanks so much again
Your symptoms don't sound like an STD - those would be present all the time, and wouldn't worsen over the day.

I have seen many, many, many people talk themselves into symptoms, and have seen anxiety manifest symptoms. Happens ALL the time.

If you are having severe pain, you need to see your doctor. You could have a UTI or urethritis from the oil. Don't let that go unchecked. When we see people talking themselves into symptoms, they are usually vague. Yours aren't so vague. If you have an STD, it's not from this encounter. My guess is that the oil you used got into your urethra and has caused an infection. Men get UTIs, so you don't need to explain the cause to a spouse or partner, if that's a concern.

A brief brush of genitals isn't going to transmit anything.

Let us know what the doctor says.
Thanks so much for your response advice and reassurance. It has made a huge difference to my general state of mind. I will follow your advice.
Thanks again for your time
You're welcome. Let us know how you're doing, and what the doctor says. :)
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