Naked Massage/Frottage Genital rubbing risk ?

[Stupidguy82]

I recently had a Nuru massage in which both of us were naked. After flipping over she used her vagina to massage my Penius fairly vigorously for 10-15 min. I never penetrated but I feel like it’s possible it got close and am now scared i could have contracted an STD/HIV. I have read a fair about of posts that suggest my risk was essentially 0. But I’m hoping for clarification. My shaft and head would have had direct contact with her Vagina and opening but never inserted. However it was probably as close to possible without going in.

I want to put this to bed so to speak but I’m married and don’t want to risk passing HIV along to her. I’m a just letting my guilty conscience get the better of my or do I need abstain from sex with my wife till I can get tested ?

[auntiejessi]

There is zero risk for HIV, chlamydia, gonorrhea and NGU - you need to have penetration for those.

You could get syphilis, herpes, and HPV from the rubbing. To get syphilis, your partner would have to have a sore. To get the others, your partner wouldn't have to have symptoms.

Syphilis isn't all that common, but is still possible. You can test for it at 6 weeks, and you wouldn't get symptoms for about 3 weeks at a minimum.

Herpes type 2, or hsv2, is pretty common, and you might get symptoms any time between 2 days and 2 days, with an average of 4 days. You can test for that at 12 weeks, though most test positive by 6 weeks. Ask for a type specific IgG blood test.

There is no test for HPV for men, and you might not get any symptoms. If you do, they could take a few weeks to several months to appear. There are several different strains, and many don't give symptoms.

I can't make the decision about abstaining with your wife for you, but there's enough of a risk that you might want to at least wait until the symptom periods have passed.

[Stupidguy82]

Thank you. My main concern was HIV. Don’t really know why but that’s what is stuck in my head. Girl was very nice and told me she had nothing to pass on, I freaked out the next day and asked her. But still the doubt in her being honest lingers.

[auntiejessi]

What does she stand to gain by being dishonest? You are a stranger to her.

You've contacted her, she was open and honest and nice to you. Let her be now.

You had no HIV risk, and she probably doesn't have it. Most people don't.

[Stupidguy82]

I didn’t mean that she would lie, but more didn’t know. Anyway I much appreciate you

[auntiejessi]

Ahh got it. In any case, it doesn't matter if she knew and lied, or just doesn't know. You had no risk for HIV, so her status doesn't matter. :)