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Risks of oral sex

I know that this question has been asked a million times, so let this be a million and one. I've had a few experiences with escorts the last few weeks. With two of them I had oral sex and intercourse, both times with condom, so I assume that there is no risk there. This last Friday, though, I engaged with an escort that somehow I consider high risk just because she is the kind of escort that will have unprotected sex both oral and vaginal with most of her clients. The thing is that she came to my place and we had oral sex. Initially we kissed very lightly, but then she gave me a blowjob. I came in her mouth, and the we laid there for a short period of time then she tried to give me a bj again, but my dick was limp, so we couldn't do much, and she left. Nothing else happens. I went to the doctor yesterday, and he told me that I don't need PrEP, and that I should be fine. He tested me for chlamydia and gonoreah anyway. I'm completely freaking out. I have some tests this you week. If I come up as HIV positive I think that my life will officially end. Can anybody share some insight about this topic? What is my real risk of catching HIV or a STI. I was irresponsible, and this anxiety is killing me.
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I also want to add that I have started to feel some pain and a little swelling on my lymph nodes. I'm panicking now. I praying that I don't have HIV
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You have no risk of HIV from oral sex. (Also, HIV is completely manageable and while no one wants it, it's not anything that that would cause your life to officially end. Many people with HIV life happy, healthy, fulfilling lives.)

Your risks from receiving unprotected oral sex are gonorrhea, syphilis, genital herpes type 1 (unless you already have oral herpes type 1), and NGU.

When you were tested for chlamydia (not a real risk from oral) and gonorrhea, they probably did a test for NGU - they look for white blood cells in your urine. When you get your results back, ask if they did that test. You can get it from normal mouth bacteria. (It's an infection in your urethra.)

Syphilis causes a sore on your genitals called a chancre. This can take up to 90 days to appear, but the average is 21 days. It can also take up to 3 months to test positive for this. The good news (and I do have some) is that syphilis isn't that common. You can find out how common it is where you are by googling syphilis rates and your state/province/country or city (bigger cities will have info on their rates more so than smaller towns).

You can find out if you have hsv1 already (if you don't already know - think cold sores or fever blisters) by taking a type specific IgG blood test. Take one now, and if it's negative, take one again at 4 months. 90% of people who have this orally (and at least half of the adult population has this orally) never gets an outbreak, so they don't know they have it. If you already have it, you can't get it again in another location.

Oral sex is lower risk than genital sex, but there is still a risk.

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I have a test next Tuesday and I have taken Wednesday to Friday off from work to assimilate the results. I am afraid that if I have HIV that's the end for me. No way I can overcome something like that. I'm so stupid. I feel so frustrated.
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I just said you had no risk of HIV. None. Put that out of your mind.

What are you testing for next week? You've already tested for gonorrhea? Unless it's a herpes type 1 test, there's no need to test for anything.

I think you are overreacting. You got a blowjob. You don't need to take time off work to assimilate anything.

Since you seem to be thinking of suicide, you need counseling. This is NOT a normal reaction to the risk you have. Talk to your doctor about your anxiety and/or depression, and do it today. If you are finding yourself thinking of ways to harm yourself, call 911 (or your local emergency number) or go to the ER.

I promise you that this is not nearly as bad as you are making it. It just really isn't.
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I am testing for HIV, Chlamydia, Gonoreah, syphilis, herpes. I will take the HIV RNA test. I'm totally scare.
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Listen, we don't expect a lot from people here, but it's great if you read our answers.

You don't have a risk for HIV. That's science. You also don't have a risk for chlamydia. Also science.

You've already tested for gonorrhea and it was negative. You don't need to test again.

Your syphilis and herpes tests will be negative, unless you had them before. It's too soon to test positive for them from this encounter. Save your days off for something FUN.

Also, talk to your doctor about your mental health. Your reaction to this is way overblown.

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