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husband cheated

Dear Dr,
I recently found out that my husband had sex with a hooker, supposedly used condoms, but had unprotected sex with me several times.... once less than 24 hours after being with her.  We have 3 children, one is a nursing baby.  I am concerned for all of us.  He said he went through 5 condoms during the time with her. She put them on him so I have no idea about the quality, age, condition or proper use of the condoms.  They had both oral and vaginal sex. Mostly oral evidently, while he wore condoms. (?) And they used hand lotion in the process as a lubricant, which I understand degrades them. When I found out, I insisted he go to planned parenthood for testing, but they told him all they could screen for was chlymidia and ghonorreah. They then said come back in 4 to 6 months to test for viruses.  I am scared they did not test for everything they should have, and I am under tremendous anxiety waiting for the time to pass for more testing.  I don't want to have to wean a nursing baby because of this.  But am also concerned about transmission as I can't be sure about what fluids were exchanged between their genitals, skin, hands or mouths from their various contact.  As I said he was with me unprotected in less than 24 hours... he took a shower supposedly, but he did make contact with me vaginally, orally and on my breasts (hence nursing concerns)and kissing. Did planned parenthood test correctly? And what should I do now,... waiting is torture and there are many other non-virus std's than the 2 they tested for! Do you really have to wait for all of them? What about BV, trichinosis, crabs, etc,? And if he had contact with std's and then touched my breasts with his penis... is there a nursing risk etc (due to bacteria/viruses on the skin or open milk ducts for example)? Sorry for the paniced redundancy. I am very scared.
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Hpv, no test for men. Can only hope he doesn't get it
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I will give you testing time frames...
Gonorrhea and chlamydia-1 week
Syphilis-6 weeks
Herpes and HIV-3 months

But with a condom use then the risk is very low.
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