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I cheated on my girlfriend almost 6 months ago i had unprotected sex with a woman. i found out she supposedly has hiv, every doctor ive talked to exluding my family gp has told me that im in the safe zone for hiv as ive taken a test at 3, 6, 9, and 14 weeks for Hiv 1,2, Herpes 1, 2, Hepatitis a,b,c,e, gonnerea chlamidiya syphalis also VDRL and complete blood count each time, had blood and urine tests, i think the urine ones were done for chlamidia and gonneria. All negative except i had a positive monospot test. my problem is I had a one time penile discharge, also about 5 days after i started feeling pretty unwell, and at about the 2 week mark i noticed what looks like a pinkish reddish rash on the end of my penis, and the glans looks purple and swollen, very inconsistent in size and color from one side to the other goes purple pink purple , ive also had swollen glands and a few days after the exposure i also had dark smelly urine and i felt like i had to go pee allllllllll the time but when i did very little came out. so with negative tests at 14 weeks and having showed several doctors my penis and being told that it just looks a little swollen and it didnt look like an std i began to think that it was all in my head. me and my girl have consistently used condoms since the infadelity but recently when we were out drinking we got the idea to not use a condom, which i didnt think would be a big deal, but today 1 week later is complaining of stomach pain and says her vagina feels strange like she has to push something out, so i am now worried sick and dont know what to do, i have all these negative tests but no idea if the docs missed something i should have been tested for?? the girl i slept with was from regina and there is a large population of african and asian immagrants there like this girl could have slept with ANYONE.  WHAT STD'S AM I CERTAINLY OUT OF THE WINDOW PERIOD FOR, ARE THERE ANY STDS THAT REFLECT MY SYMPTOMS BUT I HAVE NOT LISTED IN THE TESTS I HAVE HAD, CAN YOU RECCOMEND ANY TESTS I COULD HAVE MY GIRLFRIEND GO DO IF I HAVE PASSED AN STD ON TO HER, WHAT TIME FRAME SHOULD SHE BE TESTED IN???????????????????????????????????? please help i am at my wits end as we want to have another child but i am very scared i have made that an impossability and also worried i have a life threatening condition that i have no passed on please help me

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Thank you