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Can I get stds/Sti from penis being licked? I just met a person and we’ve been talking for a while. She is trans, we’ve never done anything until recent. She was giving me hand pleasure and she licked me penis twice and Inserted it once just the tip. That’s all we did due to the amount of time we had. I have herpes so I’m not stressing that. Should I be worried?
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In theory, yes, there is a risk. In practicality, not really. It was a brief exposure, and she didn't take you deeply into her mouth. I'll go over the possibilities, but remember - it's all theoretical, and you really don't need to worry about it.

So receiving unprotected oral sex puts you at risk for syphilis, genital herpes type 1, gonorrhea and NGU.

Syphilis isn't that common, and your partner would have had to have a sore in her mouth to transmit it. You wouldn't see symptoms of this for 10-90 days, but the average is 21 days, and you'd get a sore called a chancre. This doesn't cause burning, pain, discharge, etc. You can test for this at 6 weeks. If you get symptoms, but test negative at 6 weeks, test again at 90 days.

If you don't already have herpes type 1 (think oral sores, like cold sores but not canker sores), then you could get genital herpes type 1 from receiving oral sex. This can happen even if the person performing oral doesn't have a sore, but it's more likely if they do. The time from infection to symptoms is usually 2-12 days, but the average is 4 days. You can test for this now, and then again at 4 months to make sure you don't have it. If you test positive now, it's a pre-existing infection that you had before this encounter. About half the adult population has this, and 90% don’t know it.

You'd see symptoms of gonorrhea at about 2-5 days, and this would usually be a discharge, burning, etc. Some people don't get symptoms. You can test for this as early as 3 days, but 5 days is better. You can have a urine test or a swab test.

NGU is an infection in the urethra that is caused by anything other than gonorrhea (nongonococcal urethritis urethritis, sometimes called NSU, for non-specific). This can be caused by normal mouth bacteria entering the urethra, and the symptoms and testing times are the same as gonorrhea.

If this is someone that you plan on dating, or having a relationship with, then it would be a good idea for both of you to test before things go much further. You can do it together, and if you haven't already told her, it's a good opening to tell her about you having herpes. Lots of couples test together - it's a great way to build trust. :)
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No we won’t be dating just friends and it won’t happen again. Not speaking theoretically I should be fine because it was all brief and not too deep just like a head insertion. I was very open about my herpes but I don’t think she is willing to be that open about her sex life. I was tested 4 months ago as I had a scare but all was negative back then.  
Also thanks for the response. I really appreciate the straightforwardness. I shouldn’t be worried so I’ll go relax a bit.
Sorry I don’t mean to keep commenting. I was just wondering if I should be worried or not. I’m not the brightest with theory vs practically?
So in theory, if you go outside in a thunderstorm, you have a chance of getting struck by lightning.

Practically speaking, the chances are not high at all that you would be.

Is it possible? Yes. Will it likely happen? No.

Go relax again. You have nothing to worry about. :)
Thank you!!
You're welcome!
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