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Did I give right advice regarding oral sex?
Hey all! I friend asked me a question and my answer was "There was no real risk to this situation at all for anything". Is that right? The question was...
"I met with a random guy (also a bloke) of unknown status. We engaged in mutual masturbation (hand job only). He went to give me a blowjob and before I could say no and push him back, he put his mouth on the tip of my penis and gave it a small suck. I then said no and pushed it. Literally a second or two.
Mutual masturbation continued a little longer then I left."
Im pretty sure my advice is correct but just need reassurance!
"I met with a random guy (also a bloke) of unknown status. We engaged in mutual masturbation (hand job only). He went to give me a blowjob and before I could say no and push him back, he put his mouth on the tip of my penis and gave it a small suck. I then said no and pushed it. Literally a second or two.
Mutual masturbation continued a little longer then I left."
Im pretty sure my advice is correct but just need reassurance!
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It's exactly what I'd say to you if you were asking, and I think any discomfort is a hyper-awareness of the area from anxiety, or perhaps irritation if he'd had a lot of alcohol. Alcohol (and caffeine, juices, etc.) irritates the bladder, which can cause irritation in the urethra. It's also dehydrating, which can cause irritation.
It's not worth any time spent worrying about at all.
It's not worth any time spent worrying about at all.
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Yeah. I just called him after work. He said he spoke to an STI charity and they said "it is extremely so so so low risk of anything. Close to zero % for the time spent!"
For my learning, why is it so low? Because the germs live at the back of the throat or theres not enough time for the bugs to go into the uretha?
For my learning, why is it so low? Because the germs live at the back of the throat or theres not enough time for the bugs to go into the uretha?
Yes, because germs live in the throat, because of the very brief exposure, because oral overall is lower risk than vaginal or anal (oral STD infections are less frequent than the others).
Most experts don't feel that a single act of oral even warrants testing, and that means full on oral to completion, however long that takes.
Most experts don't feel that a single act of oral even warrants testing, and that means full on oral to completion, however long that takes.
Ok, that makes sense! So last question on this then we can close it off, would you agree with what he was told on the phone that the hances of anything from this singe 2 second event was close to 0%, if not actually 0%?
Yes, absolutely. I wouldn't give it another thought.
UPDATE: So I spoke to my mate today. He has no obvious discharge (im guessing if there was discharge it would be pretty obvious, right?) and only "symptom" is a weird sensation on the tip of his penis (maybe due to anxiety). IF there was anything there would be symptoms by now wouldnt there? I know its like a ZERO percent chance but thought id update!
Are you asking for yourself?
There is no risk here. Discharge is obvious - can't mistake it or miss it. Men don't have to milk or squeeze their penises to see it, either - it's just there.
Most often, a sensation at the end of the penis is a hyper-awareness of the area, caused by anxiety.
Symptoms of gonorrhea would appear within 3-5 days, if someone were to get symptoms, if there was a risk. There was no risk here.
Symptoms of NGU can take a week to 5 weeks to appear, if someone were to get symptoms, if there was a risk. (Lots of different germs cause this, so the incubation period has a greater range.) There was no risk for this.
A syphilis sore can take 10 days to 90 days to appear, with an average of 21 days, if there was a risk. There was no risk here.
There is no risk here. Discharge is obvious - can't mistake it or miss it. Men don't have to milk or squeeze their penises to see it, either - it's just there.
Most often, a sensation at the end of the penis is a hyper-awareness of the area, caused by anxiety.
Symptoms of gonorrhea would appear within 3-5 days, if someone were to get symptoms, if there was a risk. There was no risk here.
Symptoms of NGU can take a week to 5 weeks to appear, if someone were to get symptoms, if there was a risk. (Lots of different germs cause this, so the incubation period has a greater range.) There was no risk for this.
A syphilis sore can take 10 days to 90 days to appear, with an average of 21 days, if there was a risk. There was no risk here.
Not me no! Im to scared to do anything (tho I start counselling on Wednesday for health anxiety finally!)
It's for my friend who is in a relationship but dabbled with the experience I said about!
It's for my friend who is in a relationship but dabbled with the experience I said about!
Ahhh the guilt thing. Remind him that guilt doesn't equal risk.
I'm very happy to hear that you're getting counseling for health anxiety. I wish you the absolute best with it. :) It takes real courage to get help when you need it.
I'm very happy to hear that you're getting counseling for health anxiety. I wish you the absolute best with it. :) It takes real courage to get help when you need it.
Thanks Jessie! It took up to much of my time worrying about little things and not enjoying life so I took the plunge and looking forward to getting some proper help help! Doesnt help I work in the medical field so I know too much!
In regards to my mate, he is totally safe to continue sex with normal partner?
In regards to my mate, he is totally safe to continue sex with normal partner?
Ohh yes, they say ignorance is bliss for a reason. :)
Yes, it's safe for him to resume normal sex stuff with his partner.
Yes, it's safe for him to resume normal sex stuff with his partner.
So I just call him. He said the next day (so about 6 or 7 hours later) he felt a discomfort on the tip of his penis which lasted the day but thats it. No discharge and it feels better now. Im guessing thats too early to be an STI or anything, more anxiety driven. I assume if he does not get symtpoms this week hes good to go!
What are your guys thoughts on the risk level of this event - with the brevity of the oral lasting only a second or two and def no deep throat, im assuming it is to soon for any bugs to pass over?
What are your guys thoughts on the risk level of this event - with the brevity of the oral lasting only a second or two and def no deep throat, im assuming it is to soon for any bugs to pass over?
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Correct.
I think your advice is okay. You could add to see if any symptoms develop but that you sincerely doubt they will based on such a brief moment of oral and in the absence of no symptoms, he'd not need to test. The hand job is indeed no risk as you know.
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Thats what I though! What are your personal thoughts on that situation?
Lastly he has a long term partner if that makes any difference. He said it was a one off "lapse in judgement".
As an addition im aware there are low risks for certain STI but for a couple of seconds max I believe there is no risk as it is not enough time?
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