Do I have herpes or genital warts??

[stop211]

My boyfriend and I have unprotected sex all the time. I got tested abot 3 weeks after our break up and all of my tests came back neg. We got back together and had sex again. He had 3 other partners during our breakup. He says that he used a condom all times and recieved oral once. We had sex and I noticed he had a few little open sores around the head of his penis. It looked like simple breaks in the skin. He said that It had done it before and it was because his penis was dry. A few days later, I had the same open cuts on the inside of my vagina as well as a big bump that was very painful. There was no pus coming out of the bump but it was painful to even touch. I told him what was going on and he said his small cuts healed. I looked at his penis about 4 days later and he now has a small little pink bump on the head of his penis. I have the same size bump on the inside of my vagina (labia) and there are about 4 of them. When I urinate it burns the cuts. I am very itchy and now there is alot of what seems to be dry skin on the outside of the labia majora. I don't know what to think but we are both getting tested this week.

[maxneedshelp]

what happened?

[spongehead]

Getting tested is the smartest thing you can do, not to incite panic or fear, but the symptoms you describe are indicative of a herpes simplex 2 outbreak.  Herpes "flares" and cools, which is why it is such a contagious disease.  He may have been with a partner that he didn't know had it.

Your boyfriend may have stayed protected during his time away from you- but wearing a condom is not 100% protection against herpes simply because Herpes effects the entire genital region- not just the shaft of the penis.  If he had oral sex unprotected (as many people do) even if the person giving it had simplex one (oral herpes) he could have potentially contracted Herpes, and then passed it on to you.

Know two things;
Always look closely at the genitals of a person you are with- no matter how well you know them- during foreplay, with the lights on.  If you see anything suspicious, get out of the situation.  Even if they say "Oh it's just..." it's your health. If they want to be with you, they need to get tested.

Herpes is one of the most common sexually transmitted infections, affecting 1 in 4 people adults in america- scary stuff!  If you do get a diagnosis of herpes there are several support groups and resources available to you out there.

Good luck!

[Vance2335]

Bumps can be from many different things, often not STD related, but you would have to see a Dr for a proper diagnosis. Testing alone might not tell you anything.