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Should I be worried over this three way?
So my mind tells me that this was a really low risk, dont worry, encounter. But this was my first time ever being in a sexual situation with two people, so its giving me anxiety. I was approached by a couple at a bar last night, and after a couple drinks I ended up going home with them. She gave him oral and I briefly rubbed my penis on her butt unprotected,and I might have grazed her vagina slightly a couple times. I stimulated her with my fingers and so it's possible some of her fluids might have gotten inside the condom or touched my penis as I put it on. The sex lasted maybe 10 minutes or so, not to completion. He fell asleep, so me and her stopped and I went home. She didnt preform oral on me, but she did touch my unprotected penis briefly with her hand that was used in the oral on the guy.. Am I at any real risk from that? The possible vaginal fluids from my hand on the condom, how much of a risk is that? The brief rubbing of my penis on her butt, and accidental grazing of vaginal lips, how risky was that? I know condom protected sex is relatively safe, but I didnt notice until after getting home that I nicked myself shaving the day before, how does that affect my risk? I'm so appreciative of this forum, i tried to search it. But couldn't find anything similar to my situation. Thanks for the long read lol.
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The only risks here are possibly syphilis, hsv2 and HPV, and they are all very low because you used a condom. I wouldn't even worry. You don't need to be checking for anything - if you get symptoms, you'll notice them.
But don't freak out - this is still low risk.
But don't freak out - this is still low risk.
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Thank you for the informative response. Taking notes for later anxiety lol. I understand that this was all really low risk and I shouldnt worry. I'll add that i didnt see any bumps or anything nefarious looking on the lady's parts, so that diminishes the syphilis risk? I know asymptomatic shedding occurs with hsv2 but still lowers the risk. I guess my main source of worry is the small nick near my pubic region. But since it wasnt mentioned in your std advice I assume it is a negligible difference. After this instance I plan on being celibate until i find the right girl, so I just wanna be thorough so I can be safe with a future partner. Thank you so much for your precious time!!
No, the nick doesn't make any kind of real difference. It would have scabbed over, protecting you.
Yes, people with hsv2 do shed asymptomatically. However, your chances of getting herpes from someone from a condom-protected encounter are about 1 in 10,000. If you were in a long-term relationship with someone who had hsv2, and all you did was avoid sex when she had an outbreak, you'd have about a 4-5% chance of getting it over the course of a year. If you used condoms, you'd have about a 2-3% chance. Transmission is probably less likely than you think.
Syphilis is uncommon. I wouldn't even worry about it. I have a feeling you will, though, so test at 6 weeks. Don't test for herpes - there are a lot of false positives and your anxiety can't handle that.
Yes, people with hsv2 do shed asymptomatically. However, your chances of getting herpes from someone from a condom-protected encounter are about 1 in 10,000. If you were in a long-term relationship with someone who had hsv2, and all you did was avoid sex when she had an outbreak, you'd have about a 4-5% chance of getting it over the course of a year. If you used condoms, you'd have about a 2-3% chance. Transmission is probably less likely than you think.
Syphilis is uncommon. I wouldn't even worry about it. I have a feeling you will, though, so test at 6 weeks. Don't test for herpes - there are a lot of false positives and your anxiety can't handle that.
What would you suggest I do? Look out for possible symptoms the next couple of weeks. If my understanding is correct I'm only really at risk of anything from the actual sex. And the condom protected areas are safe. So look out for bumps around the base? Also does my razor cut from a day before affect risk? It would have had a scab considering it was almost 24 hours after I nicked myself.
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Hi the touching and grazing would be considered zero risk in the reals world and the protected sex is zero risk if no part of your genital area made rubbing contact with hers. If it did would be considered low risk for herpes and syphilis.
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Sorry I thought I was writing in the comment section not answers. What would you suggest I do? Look out for possible symptoms the next couple of weeks. If my understanding is correct I'm only really at risk of anything from the actual sex. And the condom protected areas are safe. So look out for bumps around the base? Also does my razor cut from a day before affect risk? It would have had a scab considering it was almost 24 hours after I nicked myself
And if I dont notice anything over the next couple weeks, what tests should I do, if any?
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Herpes spreads by oral, vaginal and anal sex.
Herpes sores blister, then burst, scab and heal.
STIs are the most common cause of genital sores.
Millions of people are diagnosed with STDs in the U.S. each year.
STDs can't be transmitted by casual contact, like hugging or touching.
Syphilis is an STD that is transmitted by oral, genital and anal sex.
