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Learn from my mistake
I have been married over 10 years, have a 22 month old who my wife still breastfeeds, drank too much with consultants from out of town, hit the town for first time since wife was pregnant, and ended up at a strip club May 13th 2008 in back room where they do much more than strip.
I spent an hour and half giving unprotected oral sex, kissing, and frequently rubbing penis on her vagina and her giving unprotected oral sex - as between the alcholol, nerves, and guilt I had what other on forum have referenced as "whiskey" penis so was too soft to do much more. I never did ejaculate.
We traded instant message addresses and since then I have asked her 3x regarding her STD status in three different ways, she dodged one question, responded to irrelevant aspect of other, and didn't respond at all to pointed question.
In last 4 or 5 days the only real symptoms have been a tingly, numb, and chapped lips with the tip of my tongue having small red inflamed "taste buds" - and very thirsty for water. I did have night sweats and was exhausted but think that was from guilt and detox of alchohol.
I am very worried about what is yet to come and if I could spread to wife, and then subsequently to baby.
What are my risks, what do I need to do and how long do I need to wait?
I spent an hour and half giving unprotected oral sex, kissing, and frequently rubbing penis on her vagina and her giving unprotected oral sex - as between the alcholol, nerves, and guilt I had what other on forum have referenced as "whiskey" penis so was too soft to do much more. I never did ejaculate.
We traded instant message addresses and since then I have asked her 3x regarding her STD status in three different ways, she dodged one question, responded to irrelevant aspect of other, and didn't respond at all to pointed question.
In last 4 or 5 days the only real symptoms have been a tingly, numb, and chapped lips with the tip of my tongue having small red inflamed "taste buds" - and very thirsty for water. I did have night sweats and was exhausted but think that was from guilt and detox of alchohol.
I am very worried about what is yet to come and if I could spread to wife, and then subsequently to baby.
What are my risks, what do I need to do and how long do I need to wait?
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
I'm sure your partner's dodgy answers are amplifying your anxieties over this exposure. At the same time, your risk is low (see below), your symptoms are not suggestive of a typical STD and, as you suggest, may be a reflection of your rising anxiety levels related to your misstep.
Oral sex is an inefficient way to transmit STDs. Of the bacterial STDs only gonorrhea and nongonococcal urethritis (NGU) are transmitted through oral sex; chlamydia is not and without an obvious sore or lesion on your partner’s mouth, the chances of syphilis and herpes is likewise tiny. If you had gotten gonorrhea or NGU you would have most likely developed symptoms of urethritis (penile infection). Even if your partner had an STD (any STD and it is likely she did not), most exposures do not lead to infection. I would urge you not to worry. If you wish to get tested, you could go to your local STD clinic or health care provider to be tested at this time. They will be able to both do the appropriate STD tests and examine your mouth and tongue.
You can go be seen now, the answers you get will be meaningful. Good luck. EWH
Oral sex is an inefficient way to transmit STDs. Of the bacterial STDs only gonorrhea and nongonococcal urethritis (NGU) are transmitted through oral sex; chlamydia is not and without an obvious sore or lesion on your partner’s mouth, the chances of syphilis and herpes is likewise tiny. If you had gotten gonorrhea or NGU you would have most likely developed symptoms of urethritis (penile infection). Even if your partner had an STD (any STD and it is likely she did not), most exposures do not lead to infection. I would urge you not to worry. If you wish to get tested, you could go to your local STD clinic or health care provider to be tested at this time. They will be able to both do the appropriate STD tests and examine your mouth and tongue.
You can go be seen now, the answers you get will be meaningful. Good luck. EWH
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Thanks for the follow-up. Glad to here that all has been found to be OK. If you had NGU, it would have shown up in your urinalysis, thus you have nothig ffurther to worry about. You do not have NGU. EWH
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Your symptoms could be either NGU or anxiety provoked. The only way to sort this out is with examination and testing. My guess is still that there is no STD there. EWH
Dr. Hook,
I wanted to close out by providing information for others. As you predicted, I went in for STD testing and my annual physical exam. They did full STD testing, blood work, and urinalysis. All came back negative.
One last question as I am having trouble finding clear information on NGU and whether that is or is not detected as part of STD testing and/or urinalyis? I still have a slight burning after urination at head of my penis. My urine also has a stronger than normal odor. My urinalysis came back normal.
Do I need to do something specific to ensure this is not NGU?
Thank you again for the knowledge, perspective, and insight.
I wanted to close out by providing information for others. As you predicted, I went in for STD testing and my annual physical exam. They did full STD testing, blood work, and urinalysis. All came back negative.
One last question as I am having trouble finding clear information on NGU and whether that is or is not detected as part of STD testing and/or urinalyis? I still have a slight burning after urination at head of my penis. My urine also has a stronger than normal odor. My urinalysis came back normal.
Do I need to do something specific to ensure this is not NGU?
Thank you again for the knowledge, perspective, and insight.
Dr. Hook,
The good news shortly after your note all symptoms cleared aside from, since the note and still today 2 weeks later, I have slight itching inside the head of the tip of the penis that also burns slightly after urination. Is this likely stress as well or is it a symptom of gonorrhea or NGU? I have no discharge or any other symptoms.
Thank you in advance
The good news shortly after your note all symptoms cleared aside from, since the note and still today 2 weeks later, I have slight itching inside the head of the tip of the penis that also burns slightly after urination. Is this likely stress as well or is it a symptom of gonorrhea or NGU? I have no discharge or any other symptoms.
Thank you in advance
This doesn't sound like any STD, which you would have apparently acquired from giving her oral sex. Cunnilingus carries a very low risk of transmission of anything.
Definitely I'd stop bothering the poor woman with the text messaging or whatever, though.
Definitely I'd stop bothering the poor woman with the text messaging or whatever, though.
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Herpes spreads by oral, vaginal and anal sex.
Herpes sores blister, then burst, scab and heal.
STIs are the most common cause of genital sores.
Millions of people are diagnosed with STDs in the U.S. each year.
STDs can't be transmitted by casual contact, like hugging or touching.
Syphilis is an STD that is transmitted by oral, genital and anal sex.
