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Risk of STD from "Hand Action" Involving Saliva & Skin Contact w/o Fluids

Hi,

First off, I'm embarrassed to even have to ask this question, since I do NOT (normally) engage in risky sexual behavior.  That said, this past weekend, I drunkenly made the decision to fool around with a member of a extremely successful band when they were in town for a performance and I'm trying to determine my risk for STDs.

We kissed, so there was saliva exchange.  I also licked my hand numerous times while giving him a handjob (for lubricant).  He did the same with his fingers before "returning the favor".  I kept my thong on the entire time, but the head of his penis rubbed against the area quite a bit.  There was no fluid exchange on his part, so I assume my only risk is through saliva or skin contact.  I was recently tested before this happened (and after all other sexual contact I've had), so I know for a fact I was "clean" before this incident.

I am 26 years old and have only had sex with 6 guys (and fooled around with 4 more) before this incident, so this is not standard behavior for me.  I realize EXACTLY how stupid it was for me to have anything to do with him, but I was drunk and obviously made a bad decision.  I will definitely get tested in 6 or so weeks for absolute confirmation (just to be 100% sure that any future partners are not at risk for anything), but your input on my risk would help ease my mind before then.  

I realize this post is more about shame and embarrassment than actual sexual details, so I apologize for that.  If you could address the "scientific" portion at least, I'd appreciate it.  Please let me know if you need further information from me in order to answer my question.  Thank you so much for your help.
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Thank you so much for your reassurance.  It's good to know STDs are harder to get than I thought, though I will still be militant in the future about condom use when the behavior does get a little risky.  I appreciate your honest, non-judgmental, reassuring response and thank you for your efforts to keep the STD rate as low as possible :)
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Welcome to the HIV forum.  There is no need to be embarrassed because you "do NOT (normally) engage in risky sexual behavior" -- since you did not in fact engage in any risky behavior.

The "scientific portion" is that sexual safety with respect to STDs means this and only this:  no unprotected vaginal, anal, or oral sex.  Hand-genital contact, genital apposition (withing penetration), kissing and the like may carry very small risks for some STDs, such as HPV, herpes, and syphilis -- but so rarely that you really should not be at all concerned. Basically, if a bare penis doesn't get inside your body, you can ignore STDs including HIV.

Here is another thread that discusses some of the biological reasons there was no risk.  The important part starts with the follow-up comment dated December 14:

http://www.medhelp.org/posts/show/1119533

So don't worry about this event.  Just keep those condoms handy for the times you actually go on to behaviors that might put you at risk for STDs and HIV.

Regards--  HHH, MD
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