Hi everyone, so I figured I would provide this introductory thread as a guide for what we focus on, and what this group is intended for.
My intention with this group, and why I created it, is to hear what other people think about Sex and Love, because I think that a healthy dialog/conversation about it with lots of other people will help me understand what i am looking for and how I should approach it. So maybe it would help you too.
Love and sexual health is mysterious, I am finding, but something tells me that it can also be clear, and not so confusing/complicated.
Personally, I know I am wanting/needing love, and I've come to realize again and again that I want a meaningful relationship. BUT, because of my own insecurities perhaps, and because of my sex drive and all the sexiness out there I find myself thinking with my "libido".
But when I think with my libido I believe I am being desperate, immoral, selfish etc., and I feel guilty. And I feel good when I am being patient, and grateful, and think with my heart. In other words I feel good when I discipline myself and look at a girls face and think in terms of a meaningful relationship, love, companionship.. and not just sex.
So I believe it is clear to me that I should be looking for Love and not just Sex, but I still find it to be confusing and difficult.
So here are my questions, which I hope can be part of the focus of this group:
1) is it bad to have casual sex? to have a "fling"? to have Friends with benefits? Or does this distract us from finding true love, or a meaningful relationship?
2) should we only try to pursue Love and a meaningful relationship, and not just sex?
Anyway, maybe I'll update more later but I just wanted to get this group out there to hear what others think and feel!
Thanks for joining and please feel free to be open and honest, as this is intended to make our love/sex lives healthier. :)