That’s why I advise you NOT to go a whole month without - that’s not even healthy. You could be setting yourself up for prostate problems. Drs believe the male body is designed to ejaculate around 3-5 times per eeek, so maybe every other day. If you do that, you probably won’t get that extreme urge to do it several times.
As in so many things in life, moderation is probably the key here. I don't think it's necessary to give up masturbation entirely, but if you get used to doing it excessively, you may not feel turned on or satisfied with partnered sex because you could possibly have trained yourself to respond only to a very specific type of stimulation. One thing that often happens is guys get used to very firm, rapid stimulation that can be quite different from what you feel during intercourse. Also guys will typically get off very quickly, but this will not be helpful when having sex with your wife - women usually need a much longer period of stimulation to feel satisfied. Masturbation a few times a week shouldn't be a problem, but when you do, practice using a slower, lighter touch, and when you feel you're close to ejaculating, stop & take a few breaths, let the excitement diminish, then resume. If you can do this each time, after awhile, you'll train yourself to last a lot longer, and also will be better prepared for sex with your wife. Don't abstain for weeks at a time - that will only make you feel sex-crazed when you do finally 'give in' to the urge. Instead, just pace yourself, do it a few times a week, and this is actually best for prostate health as well. There's no need for any type of medication, although if you feel you're still getting turned on too quickly even after practice, there are numbing creams that help delay your orgasm a little, and you can buy these in most any pharmacy where condoms & sex lubricants are sold...
can you give up the frequent masturbation? It can cause some problems because if you get used to that direct stimulation you give yourself, you become less sensitive to what goes on with sex with your partner. But if you give up the masturbation, you then will be more likely to be excited by the sex with your wife. Make sense? Can you give it up? Do it not at all or very infrequently?