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Hi: I am female. Recently I have started to be sexually active and in the last 2 months, had 3 sexual intercourses. I have noticed that anal sex was demanded everytime and I am unaable to do anal sex because it really pains. My anus is really small and I also suffer from constipation because of that.
Can you please help how to have anal sex if the anus is small?
Can you please help how to have anal sex if the anus is small?
If you have only been having sex for 2 months and your topic focus is anal, I am assuming all 3 time of intercourse was anal? First off if people are demanding anything, Run! They are not looking out for your best interest. Note to Self: They Demanded & It is Painful = the person is a selfish jerk.
Secondly, for me, anal was the best choice since I did want to have intercourse sex but not wish to get pregnant. I love f**king, which is what anal sex is all about to me. It is not sweet, tender, gentle, caring, love making BUT it should incorporate all of these things otherwise it will be a poor experience. You should be in control of every action up to the point where you finally relax totally, let go, and scream , “DO ME!!!”
As for being small backdoor, that is how it is supposed to be but I fully understand being too tight. I researched anal sex, how to prepare, clean, lube, stretch, clean, lube, prepare, stretch, and so forth. I suggest you do a lot of research, play, research, and play. To be able to handle anal sex and enjoy it, it is like anything in life, you must practice correctly. So why bother? Obviously you are similar to me and want sex, otherwise why are you doing it?
Bottom line – get some nitrile gloves, coconut oil, healthy nonchemical diaper wipes (do not ever flush), use the restroom well, I mean very well. If you need help use the coconut oil and massage well back there. Over time you will get a routine going and it will be easier, and more efficient. Also over time you will discover some of your other issues may improve or go away from back there. My body is like clockwork now, easy peasy, and I am ready to go at it with my man. 1, 2, then 3 fingers, sex toy, larger, and larger, slowly working on the lubed stretching, then I can handle him back there with no pain. I apply coconut oil nonstop. Everything is better back there nowadays.
Much Success!
Secondly, for me, anal was the best choice since I did want to have intercourse sex but not wish to get pregnant. I love f**king, which is what anal sex is all about to me. It is not sweet, tender, gentle, caring, love making BUT it should incorporate all of these things otherwise it will be a poor experience. You should be in control of every action up to the point where you finally relax totally, let go, and scream , “DO ME!!!”
As for being small backdoor, that is how it is supposed to be but I fully understand being too tight. I researched anal sex, how to prepare, clean, lube, stretch, clean, lube, prepare, stretch, and so forth. I suggest you do a lot of research, play, research, and play. To be able to handle anal sex and enjoy it, it is like anything in life, you must practice correctly. So why bother? Obviously you are similar to me and want sex, otherwise why are you doing it?
Bottom line – get some nitrile gloves, coconut oil, healthy nonchemical diaper wipes (do not ever flush), use the restroom well, I mean very well. If you need help use the coconut oil and massage well back there. Over time you will get a routine going and it will be easier, and more efficient. Also over time you will discover some of your other issues may improve or go away from back there. My body is like clockwork now, easy peasy, and I am ready to go at it with my man. 1, 2, then 3 fingers, sex toy, larger, and larger, slowly working on the lubed stretching, then I can handle him back there with no pain. I apply coconut oil nonstop. Everything is better back there nowadays.
Much Success!
If the guy demands anal sex and you aren't comfortable with it, don't do it. Many people enjoy it but a lot don't and don't engage in that activity.
no you can't get pregnant through anal but my first time i used water instead of lube, and i bled from it entering so i was a bit scared about whats going to happen to me, just make sure he wears a condom and lubes up first.
also be sure whoever your having anal sex with or vaginal sex that you make him wear a condom there is a lot of stds out there including hiv dont risk your health over 10 mins of pleasure or pain
The anus should be really small, so that nothing is leaking out. A loose anus is a lot worse to deal with than a small one.
Re-think the kind of men you are sleeping with. A guy who is there for just one night probably isn't too concerned with how you feel the next day. If you want to try anal, do it with someone who genuinely cares whether or not it's comfortable for you. Don't ever do something that hurts and could potentially leave serious damage just because some one-nighter wants it. It's not worth the pain and discomfort that you and you alone will end up dealing with. My advice? Wait for a committed partner who will be patient in doing it right.
Re-think the kind of men you are sleeping with. A guy who is there for just one night probably isn't too concerned with how you feel the next day. If you want to try anal, do it with someone who genuinely cares whether or not it's comfortable for you. Don't ever do something that hurts and could potentially leave serious damage just because some one-nighter wants it. It's not worth the pain and discomfort that you and you alone will end up dealing with. My advice? Wait for a committed partner who will be patient in doing it right.
definitely have lots of lubes, preferably water based and start with small things..like your guy's fingers. don't rush into big things in there.
as time goes, your anus will get used to it.
always always use condom too
as time goes, your anus will get used to it.
always always use condom too
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