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Being made fun of..why??

First off let me give you some info! I been working at Kmart for about 2 wks and my boyfriend just got a job at Abercrombie.

Here's the problem, he keeps making fun of me about working there (i kno it may seem like its not a big deal but it is to me and it really hurts my feelings!) anyway Im only gonna be working their till january b/c i'll be in college as a full time student.But everytime we start fighting he starts saying stuff like "well your wack cause you work at Kmart" and stuff like that! He stared making fun of me about it when he got at job at abercrombie..so to me its like he thinks he's better then me b/c he works at a better job? and it just makes me sooo! upset cause its not like kmart is my dream job! he makes fun of me like lifes over for me! he didnt graduate! and he didnt get his GED yet but i dont sit there and pick him apart about it! b/c i kno it wpuld hurt his feelings. It just upsets me to see how he really is and im now seeing his true colors! its soo childish, I kno he things he's better then me! and to just think about it makes my blood boil!!!!!!

-i kno this may seem dumb to some ppl but i just need to feel better about it and i
need sum advice frm ppl that will understand.

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492898 tn?1222243598

"-i kno this may seem dumb to some ppl but i just need to feel better about it and i .."

It's not at all dumb the way you feel, and you need to trust your feelings about this! You have to! I think he feels deep down that you are better than him, because he didn't finish High school, and it's you who will be going to college, not him. And once you go to college, you will be meeting other people besides him. maybe he is even trying to break this up because he sees it coming anyway, but this way he is more in control.

Listen, if this was me I would feel really badly about it too. he is not the right guy for you anyway, and I hope you know that. it doesn't mean that he was a mistake, but you are still young and your life is just beginning.

best to you, and again, trust your feelings on this. it's a mean and arrogant and selfish and insensitive thing to do to anyone you care about. so, obviously he only cares about himself, and only about you because he thinks you are better than he is? it's all about him and that is the last thing you need in your life. kat
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691295 tn?1228094130
Wow he sounds really lame. Sometimes guys with really big egos need to be put in their place. It sounds like his is huge. If you plan on spending your life with this person give him a hard time about graduating and his GED. See what happens. He only makes minimum wage too and listens to crappy techno house music all day. At least at Kmart the music is tolerable. Boys are dumb too. Don't let him put you down. I worked at jewel and when my bf gave me a hard time about it, I told him at least I have a steady job unlike a carpenter with no work. He shut up after that. Put him in his place. And if he still gives you hard time after that try telling him when you're all cuddled close one day that it hurts your feelings when he makes fun of you working at Kmart. He might be understanding or he might be a total jerk about it. If he is a jerk tell him he has a small penis. haha. Good luck!!
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627145 tn?1230305626
Guys are weird like that.  I remember my first job, which was busing tables at a restaurant.  It was cafeteria style, so no waitresses.  There were two cooks, both males, and they were extremely proud to be the cooks.  They teased other employees for their lower status.  Other than that they could be fun, and sometimes one of them would carry me into the cooler and kiss me or something.  It made work fun.  But I didn't let their superior attitudes bother me because one thing I learned working there was that I wanted to go to at least 2-year college so I wouldn't have to work in restaurants the rest of my life.  And I didn't want to learn to be a cook, either!  I didn't beat them up about it though.  If they were satisfied with their jobs, that was great for them.  
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Kick him to the curb.  You do what you need to pay the bills and take care of business.  On the catch and release program this fish still has some growing up to do,

This something BOTH sexes do btw.
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Thankyou! sooo much!!
I needed to hear everything yall said! I feel soo much better!
and all of you are exactly right! i love him and i kno he love's me but yes! ( katarina777)
i deff. think he feels sum type of way b/c i graduated and i'll be going to college in no time..and he didnt do anything yet. so me working at kmart is the only thing he has aginst me lol! i want to see his dreams come true, thats one of the main reasons why he wanted to work at abercrombie...so he can audition when recruits come. They look for new face's to model for abercromie like every 3 months and i kno he can make it!

And yes again (woahitskels6) he has a huge ego at times! im not gonna lie he is very cute and he deff. knos it and will remind that he is! he has hazel-green eyes and a nice bod. every since this modeling thing came into the picture he's been acting like a jerk all the time. he'd come into work and statr talking about his job and how its soo fun and cool and i cant help but to feel jealous!! and i think he kno's that! lol i dont think hes lame. i think he finally has sumthing he's proud of in his life! and him wanting to be a model is sumthing he can actually achieve.

oh and i forgot to mention i'll be working at abercrobie as well in january b/c i can only work weekends. and i noticed he has a little problem with me working their. he works at abercrombie&fitch and i'll be working at the kids one (abercrombie) hopfully. but i asked him if i get hired at a&f would it be a problem and he said "no..but i thought you wanted to work at the other one?" he just was acting weird and i felt like he really didnt want anything to do with me working at the same place as him. i feel like if i get hired their i'd be messing up whatever he has going on their (friends..who knows?) and if i get hired at abercrombie i kno he's just gonna act like he dosent even kno me ^^(

AND ANOTHER THING!! for the longest i was asking him if he could use his discount to buy me sum clothes their (with my own money!) and he would act soo funny about it! he say "i dont kno if i can b/c i can only use my discount on myself and their real strick about it..i can only buy it as a gift" and at first im like what!!? they cant tell you how to spend you money! i mean what if you like dressing in womens clothen, that means they wont let you buy if for your self! so their basicly judging you frm how you look (you kno what i mean) so i HATE being feed bullsh*t!! so i called the store and they said that he was bascialy right except that you can buy stuff for whoever you just have to say its a gift and they cant be in their shoping with you picking out what they want b/c when you but sumone a gift that person is usally not with you??? i still think its dumb!
but anyway he went and got me two pair of jeans.
-comment again plzz
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484465 tn?1532214032
they're both retail jobs so i don't get it....
yeah, i agree w/ the others.  very immature and he obviously is sooooo proud of his job at another retail store, so let him be.  him not sharing his discount w/ you is bologna.  doesn't sound like the definition of 'boyfriend' that i'm used to.  maybe you should be open for a change when one comes along :)
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Ok you are going to college and he does not even have his GED. You need to drop this guy and find someone who has some dignity and self respect.
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thanks..im over it! lol
we sat down and i told him how i felt and he was really sry. he said he didnt mean it like that and didnt think i would take it soo personal. i told to never say it again thou!
b/c were both equal in this relationship! and if anyone thinks their better then the other then why are we together??

-what do you think??
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It sounds like you've gotten past a big hurdle. I'm glad to hear that he was receptive to what you talked about. Guys take a little longer to mature, it sounds like he's coming around.
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Dump him. He is wack. In the future, remember "ignore EVERYTHING guys say and watch what they do very closely" that will tell you who they are.  He's hurting your feelings and acting childish and worried about image and stupid stuff like that. Let me go on and find somebody as superficial as he is. You won't get anywhere you want to go with this one.
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687619 tn?1227179779
He may be the kind of guy that will always find something to belittle you with.  If it's not Kmart it will be something else.  

If you love this guy and want to be with him you must get this under control now. .......  If he really loves you, he will be willing to admit that he acts inappropriately towards you STEP ONE  ------- then get some help from a professional to work through the issues why he does  STEP TWO --------  if he is not willing to admit or work at your relationship then you must move on because this will wear you down over time OR even better, if he is willing to work at things with help you will grow to be a loving couple STEP THREE

Good luck - and remember that you are a whole person who deserves respect and admiration for your effort.  Don't let anyone tear that down
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sry it took so long for me to write bac!
but thanks for your advice and comments ^^)
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very well said...  i couldnt  say anymore...

Betty
i think what fuzz said is smart..  i agree..
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