She fears...

[irfanalone]

I am 24 years old and my girl friend is just of 20. We both love each other and want to have a good love. The problem is that she fears about penetration and stops me inserting my penis into her. we both have a long and good foreplay but when i want to penetrate into her, she pushes herself and i become unable to insert. We have talked about this many times but she says i also dont know why i do such. She says that she have some fear but what is that we both dont know. Please somebody help me what to do over this.......please help me friends.

[irfanalone]

Thank you.
Can we get together for friendship?

[amethyst1991]

Happened to me and my boyfriend.

I was so caught up in the moment with him kissing and touching he pulled my pants down with me surprised. That was the first time that we tried to do it. I was scared and I have never had sex. I was not sure what to do. I was like " you sure??! I'm not ready" Not ready because I was a virgin and I was really scared that he could get me pregnant. I'm only in my early 20s. Your girlfriend might just be scared or she's not sure what to do.

So after a couple of tries that lasted for I guess a week of me pushing him away while he tries to do his job. I got the hang of it. He was experienced so he was a bit comfortable. I was not so I was really tense. The next day, we went to work and we were laughing on how much our thighs hurt because I unconsciously push him away every time.

Don't be too mad at her too. I'd kick my boyfriend if he'd be upset over that. Good luck and relax :)

[irfanalone]

Yeah she is a virgin. The problem is that she also wishes for insertion/full sex but when i keep my penis over there she just slips up and this is the stage that is unbearable for me. That's why i want to get help of my other friends like you.....please help me friend. I am too much anxious and disturbed at her strange behaviour. Now i am getting myself mad.
What to do???

[jimpy9]

Maybe you two can see a councilor or psychologist?
Is she a virgin? if she is i can understand but if not this is strange.

[Motownguy]

All the time? Wow, that is strange. Unless you got a huge penis or maybe she sees something you don't, like warts and stuff. But if she gives oral, that's great! Many men prefer oral over regular sex because regular sex you're done, in what? 15 seconds? Then roll over and go to bed. With oral, you just lay there with your arms under the pillow for a half hour or more while she does all the work. I'm sure you guys will find something you both enjoy.

[NOHARD]

Hi, Its the same old story, should I or not?
OK try this, when in foreplay get her on top, let her decide from there, this way its always going to be her decision, and for her its a great way, she can just slid down your shaft, and she is in control of what she does would have been down to her.
But you should never false the issue, not a good way to go, when it becomes right you both need to enjoy the moment.
Remember safe sex. and use a condom.
Hope this helps.
Good Luck