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Can't orgasm
me and my boyfriend have been dating over a year. A while ago we fooled around for the first time and i had an orgasm, but since then I haven't been able to. The other night I finally decided to have sex, it was my first time. I don't think I had an orgasm. It didn't feel like I did. Is this normal? He did a lot of fingering before hand, could that have caused it? Please help, I'm worried something may be wrong with me
I think it's just anxiety like you said. Everything new we learn in life is scary at first. I like bike riding. But when my grandpa was teaching me the first time on a two wheel bike I was excited, but scared too. But guess what? I learned. I've fallen a few times bike riding. That didn't stop me.
From what I've read thru your posts I don't believe you are ready for going all the way, yet.
I'll tell you a secret. When I think about being spanked it turns me on. So that's ok. It's good to know what your turn ons are. Some girls like to have a blindfold on or just fantasizing about it. You can have secrets. Some girls dream about a space ship coming and being taken away.
Relax. Take a yoga class. Learn about belly breathing.
Maybe you'd like to see a graphic movie. Do it all. Read, watch, fantasize.
You will learn what your body needs to orgasm. Then you'll call forth those memories and be able to orgasm when you feel like coming.
Some girls are more likely to climax during the month close to your period.
The more information you have the better. Maxy
From what I've read thru your posts I don't believe you are ready for going all the way, yet.
I'll tell you a secret. When I think about being spanked it turns me on. So that's ok. It's good to know what your turn ons are. Some girls like to have a blindfold on or just fantasizing about it. You can have secrets. Some girls dream about a space ship coming and being taken away.
Relax. Take a yoga class. Learn about belly breathing.
Maybe you'd like to see a graphic movie. Do it all. Read, watch, fantasize.
You will learn what your body needs to orgasm. Then you'll call forth those memories and be able to orgasm when you feel like coming.
Some girls are more likely to climax during the month close to your period.
The more information you have the better. Maxy
I have been worried about this too. I haven't really been on my best mind about anything sex related but there are couple things I assume are turning me on a bit, however I am not familiar with anything.
I have tried masturbation but all I ever feel is some relief-like feeling and nothing else.
My boyfriend wants sex with me but so far I have denied bc I will need to see doctor and that freaks me out to the level of panic attack.
But we have done fingering and oral sex. And always he's the one getting all the pleasure (of which I am glad because I simply never feel like needing to feel any of that).
I feel more unsure whether my complete lack of feeling the need for sex is normal or it's just in ny head due to my fear of everything
I have tried masturbation but all I ever feel is some relief-like feeling and nothing else.
My boyfriend wants sex with me but so far I have denied bc I will need to see doctor and that freaks me out to the level of panic attack.
But we have done fingering and oral sex. And always he's the one getting all the pleasure (of which I am glad because I simply never feel like needing to feel any of that).
I feel more unsure whether my complete lack of feeling the need for sex is normal or it's just in ny head due to my fear of everything
i have tried masterbating. The only way I can come close is using a vibrator on my clitoris. Also I read some very graphic books, they get me turned on but never close to an orgasm.
The first test is to see if you can achieve a climax by yourself.
Not all climaxes are the same intensity. Plus a lot of women need certain types of stimulation not usually provided in the sex act. Depending on the position and skill of your lover.
They say the brain is the biggest sex organ in the body. Think sexy thoughts. I personally can come extremely close to climax just thinking about stuff without any stimulation.
Get some great books. There's one. Not sure the title. It's by Margot Annand
Human sexuality is a beautiful uncomplicated thing.
Do some reading with the man too. It can be a great turn-on.
Not all climaxes are the same intensity. Plus a lot of women need certain types of stimulation not usually provided in the sex act. Depending on the position and skill of your lover.
They say the brain is the biggest sex organ in the body. Think sexy thoughts. I personally can come extremely close to climax just thinking about stuff without any stimulation.
Get some great books. There's one. Not sure the title. It's by Margot Annand
Human sexuality is a beautiful uncomplicated thing.
Do some reading with the man too. It can be a great turn-on.
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