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I found a white stain in my wifes panties. It was about 3 inches by 1 inch. I dont mean to be so descriptive, But its getting to my point. I know women do leak once in a while because of the tight pants movement symdrome. But do you think a stain this size can come from that? This could be the difference between me staying or going. Please let me know asap. Thank You Very Much !!!!!!
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You don't say how old you or your wife is.  As we age especially, women have discharge, It does not take much fluid to look like a lot.  Take a 1/4 tsp of water and pour it on the counter and just see how big the puddle is. Or do it on paper towel.  You don't seem to be very trusting of your wife. Has she done anything to make you not trust her?  Back on 1 Dec 2015 I had a massive heart attack. I was only 48 years old. I needed a triple bi-pass. I could not have sex for 10 weeks.  We were only having sex once a month at most anyway but after I recovered we were right back at it like before... even better for a while. Trust her. If you can't trust her, your marriage is doomed anyway.
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I have discharge daily
All men by a certain age should know this about women and she is your wife you would think you would know more about this and her body ,looking at her panties is crossing a line of trust . Sure she isn’t questioning you every time your having a wank in the shower or whatever

Time for men to know more about female bodies , we go to so much effort and yet the one thing we really can’t help - discharge is made out to be gross or abnormal or cheating !
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You signed a contract to have sex with your wife? "everyday without delay ..." I am not certain many couples make each other sign sexual contracts concerning sexual frequency ... (although I am pretty sure a lot of men would be happy to contractually obligate their significant others to everyday sex. I suppose some women might be happy about that too.) But I digress ...
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I’m a woman and some women experience discharge in my ways. It can be related to periods, vaginal health, hormones, urinal health or other diseases. Also in can be very normal. I often experience a white discharge in my panties, I constantly think I’m having my period lr feel wtness fown there. If you are worried talk to her without embarrassing her.
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Not all woman have discharge, I’m 43 and in my 3rd year of menopause but I have found because I don’t really self lubricate, I don’t have any discharge so for any woman who haven’t gone through menopause you wouldn’t understand this. I see this question was asked years ago but I stumbled upon it and wanted to let you know the biggest sign of infidelity is her behavior! Not her panties! If she seems to provoke fights, seems to go on misc errands for really nothing, does she try to push you away only to see if you’ll stay? I hope that you are doing well and I hope all you had were suspicious thoughts and everything is just great with you!!!
STARS ⭐️ FROM MICH.
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I can’t believe a man does not know that a woman has whitish or whatever coloured discharge, which is the norm for women. Women have to be lubricated inside as obviously it’s healthy for the vagina to be wet rather like saliva inside the mouth that is always produced and this discharge does stain your knickers. There is a very good reason why women are wet and that is so that the sex act is more pleasurable for both! There is more slippery thinner discharge when aroused, but as I said before women constantly have discharge and that normally ends up in her pants if a panty liner is not used! She would not wish to kee a mans ejaculate in her knickers and also there would be a whole lot more of the stuff than what you described!! Also men’s dried semen goes crispy so it doesn’t sound like it could be that! Sorry to go into this detail but you did ask and hope this helps?! Maybe you could read up on a gynae website about the different kinds of discharge at what time of the month, a woman produces?
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good points - well said.
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It's probably completely normal to be suspicious because you must be feeling a little bit insecure right now. If you want to please her but don't feel like you are up to sex then you should buy her a vibrator. Or you can please her orally or manually. There's lots of options. I'm sure she will be understanding.
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You folks are probably right. I did approach her the day I found it. She did say it was discharge. I just had trouble believing her. Only because we havent had sex in so long. I have tryed, Believe me. Ever since I had my heart attack Dec 17th 2008, She has backed off totally. I even got a doctors note stating it was ok to start having sex again. She even had me right a contract on her birthday (2/1/09). The contract stated that I would have sex with her everyday without delay. I did do that. But we havent had sex since before my heart attack. So you might be able to see why I`m a little suspicious.
  Thank You for your help.
           Bruincam
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I cannot tell you if she is cheating or not. But I know that a womans fluid does vary from day to day. And some women even have to change their panties once or twice a day because of it. I agree with Beargizmo. You should just ask your wife. Do not accuse her because she is most likely innocent and may even be a bit embarassed about how much fluids she has. But asking should make you feel better and you will be able to connect with her again. As for Marin600, that was very inconsiderate and rude. This man is truly worried about his wife and was asking a question about something he didn't know about. Nobody can learn anything if they don't ask questions. Best of luck to you!
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Have you considered asking your wife?  Don't let this likely "nothing" turn to resentment that destroys your marriage and yourself.


Jim
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I dont cheat or lie to my or on my wife. I had a heart attack Dec 17th and I think she is going elsewhere for sex. For the fact that she might not want to hurt me. By the way. That wasnt nessecary to comment about me cheating. But I guess you all are entitled to your opinion.
Have a good day
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Bravo! Awesome response my friend. It absolutely ridiculous how you are just asking a simple question with total sincerity and concern and people have a tendency to "assume" something bad or defame your character in some way. I am going thru a lot of the same types of suspicions, very reluctantly as I love her so very dearly and more than I've ever come close to loving anyone this genuinely and wholeheartedly. This site and these blogs should always and without fail garner only courtesy and everyone being given "the benefit of the doubt unless otherwise noted unmistakably....if that makes any sense. I'm assuming we are for the most part on here because of our own hurts, pains and relationship struggles and we just want answers if possible and more solid understanding of our circumstances prior to making any dramatic life altering decisions, especially when it concerns true love for that person.
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marin put it perfectly. especially the end.
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Hormones fluctuate every day, causing more or less vaginal drainage, depending upon so many different factors.  When still wet, before drying on the underwear, the fluid might appear like uncooked egg white, or  the same with tiny, tiny white solids, or thick and creamy looking and textured.  If the woman is fighting an infection, even a head cold, the vaginal fluid consistency can change.  Sometimes it is quite thick, like the liquid in cottage cheese; other times it's more like smashed cottage cheese, and can literally be scraped off the fabric.  It can tend toward clear, whitish, bluish, greyish, yellowish, greenish, pinkish, brownish.  The fluid can have an enticing fragrance, smell yucky, like yeast, beer, fish, urine, ammonia,  sour, something horrid, or a dead mouse.  Each cell in your body has a job to do and produces waste. Each has a protective coating to let the good things it needs in to it (osmosis), and keep baddies at bay.  But when you're sick,  or not eating well over a period of time, or consuming harmful things, your cells are compromised and can't function quite like they should.  Everything that goes off kilter sort of knocks something else off kilter, much like dominoes.  Waste materials from your body's cells (much like ash from a furnace), plus toxins that weren't supposed to have entered the body in the first place, are released from the body through all the orifices, so the eyes, the ears, nose, mouth, rectum, urethra, vagina, and sweat glands are the only way out for these toxins.  (This is a very simplified explanation.)  Some women wear sanitary napkins every day of their lives because they're embarrassed by the odor for vaginal drainage after it's been transferred to underwear for 2-4 hrs, and they change the napkins frequently throughout the day.  The longer it's been released, the more odor is noticeable.  Just simple facts of life.  Many women wear the sanitary napkins to protect their underwear from staining, because the panties usually wind up with a slight permanent yellowish, tannish, or grayish stain over many washings, and scrubbing after each results in tattered crotches!  I hope this is more than you ever wanted to know about vaginal discharges!  I can't believe I'm writing it, either, but you asked, and it's a very honest answer.  I suspect that if your wife were to cheat on you she'd be very careful to leave no clues in her underwear, or anywhere else, for that matter.  And I'll tell you what I've observed about men and women.  Usually, when the men are looking for cheating signs, its because THEY are the ones cheating on their wives.  So, how long have you been cheating?
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Women can have discharge every day, so that is probably what it is-it can vary widely day from day as well (the amount).
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