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Confusion about intercourse

Hello, I hope that I find someone that could help me with an issue that plagues me for quite a while...

I also do apologize for my English but its not my native language so I hope for your understanding and thank you in advance for your effort.

For some reason my climax when I masturbate if more pleasurable than when I am having sex.


The problem is not the girl because it is the same more on less with any I tried..

And also the problem is not my sexuality because I really feel no affection for the same sex I mean thinking a male *** or body doesn't arouse me more than thinking of a tree or whatsoever.. in fact it discusses me a little -within reason - (I am a male )

on the other hand everything on a woman is desirable for me.. the soft tender skin their smell (I mean the natural odor) their hair everything...

but unfortunately for some reason I cant get no satisfaction... its like anticipating a real great movie you saw on a trailer but then be disappointed by its end etc..

when I am close to a girl most of the times I don't need even to be touched by her for my erection to occur and I want to do to her so many things I get hard but when I get in

a) I don't feel that much while I am penetrating (My penis is about 15cm in length and 9.5 in girth with a wider head) even if the girl isnt that much wet... and whatever feeling I have do compete or are inferior to the feeling of my palm when I masturbate..

B) I think my penis has a problem (not to do with any STDs because this problem happened since my first time and we were both virgins) because I can not "leave it " without "attendance" to my partner.. because I feel pain in many situations that (by watching videos and hearing experiences from friends I shouldn't feel pain)

for example if she wears under ware and tries to rub them gently against my penis I will definitely feel discomfort and some feeling of itching or pain but I am totally into that idea its just that my body doest let me to enjoy it.. even more simple things like trying to penetrating her vagina without using my hand to find directly the spot because otherwise se simplest rubbing or touching of skin may discomfort etc..

C) Despite I do not get any physical pleasure (from my penis to my brain - I am saying that because everything else is a pleasure.. the idea of mating with "that particular girl" the feeling of conquering.. the feeling of touch of bodies or whatever i touch with my hands etc) I tend to finish very fast.. from like about 25 seconds minimum (of penetration) to about 8-10 min maximum but ~1.5 minutes(maybe a little more) being an average time....


And that frustrates me further... because I get so much exited in the fore play and I CANT DELIVER... i just cant do what I want... I finish so fast I cant have oral sex and normal intercourse in the same time because I will finish during the oral...

sometimes though (after ejaculating a few times) I manage to hold on more... but then the pleasure is even less.... I could get a little softer (but still operational) and the ejaculation is even more a ... mehhh

and as I said before the main problem is that despite the above frustration I cant even enjoy the finishing...

I mean form a scale to 1-10 I give an 8 for my best masturbation finishing and a 5 or maybe a 6 to my best intercourse finishing....

I just cant get satisfaction and it depresses me... everything feels pointless for me ....
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thnx i try it out have nothing to loose :)
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yes there are times were I dont masturbate at all and generally i dont masturbate that much ... when i used to masturbate more than my usual it was for maximum ~2 times every other day

Thank you for your response anyway I how I will get one from a pro as well
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Hi Jacko, Lets start by your length of time having intercourse, for this problem your try edging, ist a very simple exercise, for this just google pegym, and under exercises you will find edging.
I think you other problem steems from using a to tighter grip when masturbating, and your finding how it differs when you inside a vagina, see a vagine does not have a grip of steel, it has a featherlight touch, so when your masturbating it should be done with a featherlight touch, see when we masturbate it has to simulate a vagina.
So please take a tip come off sex and masturbating for a few weeks, thsi should clear your brain of your grip and restart with a featherlight touch.
This way you should be OK
Good Luck
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Maybe you're used to your own hand and the the way you masturbate. Have you tried going for a long period of time without masturbation and then having sex to see if that helps?
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