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Debate: is watching porn cheating?
I know everyone has their own opinions, I am curious what you guys think. Is it ok to masturbate watching porn, or is that a form of betraying your significant other? Or is it circumstancial, and up to the people in each individual relationship to decide together?
In Japan, Most men don't need Porn. For the reason Women submit to their lover, than the women just say no, I don't feel like it tonight as us men JUST DIED INSIDE!! Feel unwanted!!!! You women what us to talk and show emotions as we men get shot down of not now, not tonight honey, not in the mood....so ******* what!!! You had to get things done you had to do and now your lover wants you, submit to his emotional needs or here coming CHEATING that YOU asked for of denying his EMOTIONAL HUMAN NEEDS to be loved by YOU!!!! So Yes 85% of young and old men do it, because women don't play along with men fantasy as you're the fantasy. You want to be wanted it, here you go!!! NO HONEY NOT IN THE MOOD!!! ALL MEN SAY: WTF!!!! I get rejected by my own lover. why? Women body chemicals change having sex, so while you're mood is not there. It w'ill be there when he's pounding you after 5 mins. Female brain will 100% react turning your body chemicals to be turned on and in the moood 100%. This is a fact!!! Remember you reject us loyal men to many times. Well us men will think, I in the mood for a long time as I'm rejected this long. I'm going to get some action as rape is wrong and against the law. So I'm going find someone or look at porn to feel better of the sexual energy build up needs to be released.
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Sex is a sacred thing. If a couple is fully satisfied with each other , there will be harmony in a family and this will end up with healthy family with happiness. The moment you start watching porno, your subconscious mind imprints these frames occupying space in your psyche and reduce your source of energy.Watching porno means you are hungry all the time and not satisfied with your partner.If research is done on mind because of porno, I am sure we will find many mental disorders.Real sex, full body orgasm, ans waves of love encircling the couple will make a big difference. This can happen if you are not a watcher.Most of ED patients are porno watchers.
MY TAKE: Porn (used secretly) is kind of like cheating in the sense that it is like shopping for another partner. I understand it also kind of not because you don't actually get physical with another person. But...you aren't behaving in a way that typically leads to greater closeness, intimacy, or mutual pleasure.
It is turning away from your partner instead of turning toward them. (I'm not talking about porn that is used together with partners or porn that is used when the other person knows. That's different.) In my view, x-xxx porn used in secret is more like cheating than it is not.
Think of it this way. Imagine I go online to look for some new shoes. I can pick any kind, any style, any size. I customize my search and then pick the pair I want. The website lets me look at them from different angles, zoom in/out, maybe find something similar or the same style in a new material. I could click around all day just looking for new shoes. I think about outfits that different shoes would match. And I definitely think about how they would look and feel on my feet. Maybe I don't even end up actually buying any shoes. I never put them in my cart - or if I do I just don't check out. So my feet never go into that new pair of shoes. But although I didn't go ALL the way through the purchase process, you can be damn sure I was shopping. And when I have to wear my old shoes, I'll definitely wish I had that new, cute pair to wear even though I love the shoes I already have. Since I went shopping around, I know what I'm missing and I resent not being able to have it.
MY STORY: Apparently husband watches porn. We are intimate a lot (I rarely say no. Even during the week that it is not possible for me, it's bl** job week for him.) He doesn't think porn is a big deal. I just found this out quite by accident as he asked for help with his phone. He was with me when I found it. I didn't comment much except to say I was surprised and that it seems a bit like cheating. He said he doesn't equate it to adultery at all.
If it isn't a big deal, then... would it be ok for me to get texts from some guy with pics of his penis? Let's say I don't know the guy at all - I just get pics. No convo or anything back from me. Just all **** pics every day. My husband would be Furious. He would be angry about that. So why should I tolerate him actively seeking out other women to look at.
Maybe that's the trouble I have with it (in my own relationship. Obviously it is not going to mean the same thing to everyone.) It's that he is shopping around for someone else and I'm supposed to be ok with that even though he would not tolerate the same from me.
It is turning away from your partner instead of turning toward them. (I'm not talking about porn that is used together with partners or porn that is used when the other person knows. That's different.) In my view, x-xxx porn used in secret is more like cheating than it is not.
Think of it this way. Imagine I go online to look for some new shoes. I can pick any kind, any style, any size. I customize my search and then pick the pair I want. The website lets me look at them from different angles, zoom in/out, maybe find something similar or the same style in a new material. I could click around all day just looking for new shoes. I think about outfits that different shoes would match. And I definitely think about how they would look and feel on my feet. Maybe I don't even end up actually buying any shoes. I never put them in my cart - or if I do I just don't check out. So my feet never go into that new pair of shoes. But although I didn't go ALL the way through the purchase process, you can be damn sure I was shopping. And when I have to wear my old shoes, I'll definitely wish I had that new, cute pair to wear even though I love the shoes I already have. Since I went shopping around, I know what I'm missing and I resent not being able to have it.
MY STORY: Apparently husband watches porn. We are intimate a lot (I rarely say no. Even during the week that it is not possible for me, it's bl** job week for him.) He doesn't think porn is a big deal. I just found this out quite by accident as he asked for help with his phone. He was with me when I found it. I didn't comment much except to say I was surprised and that it seems a bit like cheating. He said he doesn't equate it to adultery at all.
If it isn't a big deal, then... would it be ok for me to get texts from some guy with pics of his penis? Let's say I don't know the guy at all - I just get pics. No convo or anything back from me. Just all **** pics every day. My husband would be Furious. He would be angry about that. So why should I tolerate him actively seeking out other women to look at.
Maybe that's the trouble I have with it (in my own relationship. Obviously it is not going to mean the same thing to everyone.) It's that he is shopping around for someone else and I'm supposed to be ok with that even though he would not tolerate the same from me.
What if it is a Long Distance Relationship? Would porn be ok to masturbate? I see alot of replies saying its degrading to masturbate when im not there blahblablah but I dont see anything about long distance relationships.
Porn is cheating...you. fantasizing and thinking about touching and being with someone else. That's emotionally and mentally cheating. To compare it to a chick flick is stupid. There are not completley naked showing all body parts as in a pornography. They are sometimes doing crazy sexual things. I'm going through something right now as well. I feel like its cheating. He is committed to me. And I to him so why is it ok to look at another woman completey naked touching herself or having sex with someone else. Im not shy in the bedroom either. I'm pretty adventorous so to know that he watched porn upsets me Bc I have a very high sex drive . Porn is cheating and the people that justify it whatever....if your young and single by all means have a great time. Being in a monogomous and committed relationship is just that!
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