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Delayed ejaculation?

Hi there. My boyfriend and I recently started having oral sex, and he seems to be unable to reach orgasm from it. He is worried that he has a problem with delayed ejaculation, although he has been able to orgasm from masturbation. He's pretty sure that he's too used to the way he masturbates, and that's what the problem is. I've only given him oral or handjobs three times now, so is it too soon to know, and if not, then how can we fix the problem? Thank you.
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That sounds like an accomplishment but I think your ultimate goal is to make him reach ejaculation without him involving his hand. But I'm glad you got some positive results.
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I'm (finally) back with results.
While I did not follow your advice exactly, my boyfriend and I talked about it, and decided that he would rather sit than stand. But, I took your advice in having him participate, and to get the pacing and pressure right, he'd put his hand over mine until it was good. I encouraged him to physically change what I was doing whenever he wanted to, and he was able to reach orgasm from that.
So, thank you again for the advice! Even though I didn't do exactly what you recommended, it was still very helpful.
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You welcome. Don't forget to come back with the results. I would like to know if this method worked as it did for me.
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I'll have to try that. We won't get a chance for a little while, but I'll suggest it to him.
Thank you for the help!
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Some men go years before they  experience ejaculation from oral sex or never achieve it. Masturbation is not the issue. However, how he masturbates could be causing the problem. Some men just can't get use to a woman stroking his penis while they just sit there (without participating).

This may work for him because this has work for me.

Try having him stand up against the wall, you stand in front of him like you're an exotic dancer and stroke his penis. Allow him to get into it more by letting him move his hips and go with the flow of your hand stroke. Add a little lubrication or saliva (spit) to intensify the feeling.

Come back here and let me know if this works for him. If not, we'll figure out something next. Bottomline there is nothing wrong with his penis.
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