I'm 17 years old and sexually active as of earlier this year.
However, since a few months before I was 16, I have been unable to become sexually aroused. I feel almost numb down in that region whenever I try to stimulate myself. I am able to orgasm, but only a specific way and again, with no true arousal. It takes less than thirty seconds and I can do it several times in a few minutes. I remember what it was like and I miss it terribly. I stopped masturbating for three months, hoping that would help but it did nothing.
Now that I have a boyfriend, I have another concern. I'm 5' tall, 95 lbs, and during sex, it's painful. To say the least, he is quite well-endowed and it's painful to have sex with him. We've had sex multiple times and three out of four times, I've bled(including my first time, which was with him). I always have to have him stop, otherwise it hurts too much. I believe this is related to my first issue, as arousal helps lubricate and expand the vagina before/during intercourse. We've tried foreplay for extended periods of time and it does nothing for me.
With both of these problems, I'm at a complete loss. I want to make him happy but I don't want to be miserable the whole time either. Does anyone have any ideas on what I can do?