Girlfriend doesn't feel anything during sex :(

[Adave90]

Hi,

I'm a 21 year old guy that desperately needs advice with sex. I lost my virginity 6 months ago to my current girlfriend - she lost it then, too. 

Whenever we have sex she says she can't feel a thing. It doesn't last too long, and usually ends in disappointment after I come. Furthermore, I can feel my penis losing its 'hardness' whilst inside her. We only really do missionary.

It's putting an incredibly strain on our relationship, so much that she has said on many occasions that she wants to just 'be friends' because she wants good sex.  It destroys me on the inside; my confidence is non-existent. Also, she thinks I have a small penis - is this the possible reason?

I need advice so so much because I love her more than anything. Please help :(

[CYRhodes132]

By her saying these things she is eroding your confidence, and then anxiety follows.  Unfortunately, she may not be the one to be the love of  your life.  If she isn't enjoying sex with you and criticizes your size then you may have to end that relationship.  Make sure you have a relationship of mutual respect and love before you ever enter into a sexual relationship next time.  A commitment and love are necessary for things to be natural and good.  When you feel cared for, the rest will come

[CYRhodes132]

By her saying these things she is eroding your confidence, and then anxiety follows.  Unfortunately, she may not be the one to be the love of  your life.  If she isn't enjoying sex with you and criticizes your size then you may have to end that relationship.  Make sure you have a relationship of mutual respect and love before you ever enter into a sexual relationship next time.  A commitment and love are necessary for things to be natural and good.  When you feel cared for, the rest will come

[bailyboo]

Dave, sorry for ur problem but I don't think its urs...I think ur girlfriend may have a problem. U say u lost ur virginity 2gether-was the 1st time enjoyable for both of u?  I'm not sure what she means by not feeling anything...when u finger her does she enjoy it?  If she enjoys being fingered then she should enjoy intercourse becuz ur penis is bigger then ur finger. Also I think ur losing ur erection due to the stress she's putting u under by saying she doesn't feel anything and also by continuing to say that u should just be friends.  U can also try another position like doggie style that way u can play with her clit at the same time so she can reach orgasms.  If this relationship means as much to her as it does u then u should sit down with her and discuss what can improve ur sexual relationship. She should be able to tell u what turns her on and how u can improve intercourse for her.  I hope everything works out for u and just keep trying different sexual things to improve ur relationship.

[sitthu]

hey ..
dnt be embrassed.just ask her orally what she thinks about sex and how she likes to do it.i am also 20 nd my gf19.we both enjoy sex.do as she likes.let her feel good then all will be good.use dotted condoms.spend more time in foreplay and fingering before sex.touch her clitorsis.make her sensitive.

[Dalubaba]

Google' male deer exercise and female deer exercise' These exercises may solve your problem.

[pittfan17]

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[ohcalcutagirl]

PENIS SIZE; 85% of males fall into 5.1 inches to 5.9 inches and a micro penis is 3 inches or less.
VAGINA; 3 inches in length AND HAS VERY LITTLE SEXUAL NERVES so this is why most women do not have orgasms thru their vagina.
. . IMAGINE THAT all that locker room bravado and porn movies; all = hype
now would u like to know where; learn about a woman's clitoris and G-spot (para urethral organ feminine to a man's prostate)

... .  ... so maybe she knows as little as u. ask her nicely, watch her masturbate and if she wants let her watch u and try some oral sex and different positions and always start with 30 minutes of foreplay BEFORE mr. johnson feels the need to stick his nose in.

hope this helps

[Myron_Long]

could be 2 problems here...

1-she is not satisfy with the size of your penis (mentally). If this is the case, she will not have a positive attitude towards having sex with you.

2- your penis size may not be the problem but you may not be fully hard for her to feel your hardness inside her during sex.