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HELP - Bumps on Shaft!

Hi,

I have been in a monogamous relationship for 13 years and I have never been happier.  However, I am stupid.  I let peer pressure get to me.  I went to a Bachelor Party 6 days ago (Saturday) and everyone was hooking up with prostitutes. I kept insisting No, and they were relentless and kept at it.   I eventually caved....

I used a condom, but somewhere during intercourse, my condom fell off without me noticing. When i finished, i realized i didn't have a condom on.  I immediately freaked.  I ran to the shower and washed off my genital area immediately.  I then got changed and told my friend what happened, and he handed me hand sanitizer.  I went to the bathroom and applied that as well, which burned.

2 nights afterwards (Monday night), I noticed 3 bumps about the size of 1 cm each on the base of my penis.  I have high anxiety and immediately scoured the internet.  I am freaking the hell out now.  I want to wait before I do bloodwork for a better accuracy reading.   I also have psoriasis, so I have been applying calciprotriene to the bumps, which I'm not sure is helping.  It seems like it is shrinking it over time.

Thursday morning I woke up to myself scratching my scrotum a lot.  It itches as I do sweat down there a lot, but it was itching a lot.  Friday night I woke up to the same.  I do NOT scratch it during the day - i don't know it's because I'm consciously ignoring it and don't feel it, or it genuinely doesn't itch.  There are no other bumps other than the three i found, and they seem to almost disappear during the day time, and re-appear after I wash with water.

Do i have an STD?!  I also have a headache that doesnt seem to be going away, and am NEVER hungry.  I know I'm under a lot of stress, so I can't determine which are STD symptoms and which are anxiety symptoms.  I noticed very small bumps popping up sporadically on my body, and it seems like it's happening in pairs.  I've noticed about 4 pairs already.  they are very small and the top does turn white.  Guttate Psoriasis kind of looks like that, which is psoriasis due to an infection!  Until i go for bloodwork, can someone tell me what they think it is!?  I've reviewed Molluscum Contagium, Syphilis, Herpes, HIV.  It can be anything, and I'm scared!  Timeline seems almost too early for symptoms, but I know my immune system is out of wack due to Psoriasis (i take Stelara).  I haven't touched my wife since (kiss or sex) and I want to protect her as I love her very much.  But i think this will break us.  I've already researched divorce papers - if I have something, i will leave her to protect her from my shame and my self.  She deserves much better than who I am.

and I know my friends mean well for me, but I think they are more destructive than helpful.  So I am re-evaluating my entire life at this point.
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Thanks dalubaba.  I just got back from the derm and he 'promised' the bumps are not STD related.  He said it was due to friction, and are hair follicle infections that will heal on their own.  Just gotta keep the area dry.

As for itching, he said that is common this time of year since it's hot.  If I don't have the urge to scratch in the day, it's just night time under the covers.

Now I will try to wait for the 2 week mark before getting tested.
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I am 83. I have skin problem. I am taking antihistamines and apply ointment and moisturizer. I get itching , usually at late night.I think you must be having skin problem and not STD problem. Std take time to manifest into symptoms.Do all tests suggested by doctor. Skin problems persis for a long time. They may recur any time..It is allergy or infection.
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It is always friends who initiate you into things which they are doing. If they go to prostitute, and you do not go, they will feel a sort of jealousy and would like you to do what they do.It is always friend who leads you to do the things which you do not dare to do alone..
I think you get the treatment. Almost all STDs can be controlled or cured. You need not go to the last stage of divorce.Keep you self calm and find out ways and means to handle the situation. One time mistake should not ruin the life of both of you.
You are not stupid, you are victim of so called  friends. Do not lose hope. You can compensate your wife by loving her more. This is the best thing you can do.
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