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Help, i can't seem to ejaculate .

So, here is the Problem. Ive been with my Girlfriend for about 2 years now. I am a virgin By choice. I wanted to wait until i fell in love before i made that step. Now that i am in love i am making that step. So for the past few weeks or so, me and my girlfriend have been doing sexual things. She gave me a ******** and a hand job but i cant ejaculate.
She gives me a hand job for a good Hour or so before her arm gets tried but i just cant Ejaculate I have no idea what the problem is. but from her going for one hour my penis sometimes gets numb (but we fixed that problem) is there something wrong with me? i can masturbate and *** no problem and does not take long at all.  We haven't had sex neither we both are virgins and new at this. I can get her to reach the point in under 5 min but i just cant get there myself. its frustrating. Any ideas.
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My guess - nerves.  Sexual excitement and orgasm are only partially under the control of our concious minds (we can't just order our penis up and down at will like our fingers), and the part under the control of the sub-concious can easily be affected by mood, nerves, stress, tiredness...

The nuisance is that, as soon as it has happened once, you are more worried about it happening next time, and that worry then makes it more likely to be a problem!

Try to relax, and make sure the mood is right (easier said than done!).  Don't have too high expectations.

If you can make yourself come through masturbation, maybe you could do this while she strokes and/or licks your balls and the bottom of your shaft?  If you've done this successfully a few times you could go back to having her try to bring you to orgasm - you'll be more confident that you can come with her being involved in the process, and she'll have seen what you do when you masturbate which may help her technique.

You might also want to try some sort of massage oils, which may increase the sensation for you - you can get ones that make you feel warm, and/or tingle.
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First word that's in stars is Oral 2nd is ejaculate  sorry i can't seem to Find the Edit.
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