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High Sexual drive effecting my life.

My problem started when I was around 16 years old and I was exposed to pornography and sexual content due to my friends and lack of parental guidance. This exposure did not end well; it caused me to start masturbating excessively at a young age. At first, I did it occasionally, but by the age of 17, I was doing it daily, and some days I masturbated up to three times. I wanted nothing but the feeling of orgasm that relaxed me from the stress I was facing due to my parents.

Since 2015, I have been in a loop of masturbation and high sexual drive, which has affected my life and health. I often feel exhausted and stressed due to the guilt of knowing that I should not masturbate. I have spoken to a doctor about this problem and how it affects me, and he prescribed Lexapro to help with the depression and to lower the sex drive. Unfortunately, this has not helped, as I still have a high sex drive and I can still masturbate daily, though I rarely masturbate more than once a day.

I am not married and I am worried about being in a relationship due to this addiction to masturbation, as it has ruined relationships in the past. In the past two years, I have also been suffering from stomach pain and diarrhea after every masturbation, which has increased my depression, knowing that I am addicted to such a bad habit and still doing it even though it causes pain.
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Masturbating once a day is pretty normal, and isn't causing or contributing to your stomach issues.

Maybe the Lexapro is causing some of your stomach issues - diarrhea is a known side effect of it.


Don't stop taking it without taking to your doctor first, though. You may need to be weaned off it.

I don't know if you have religious issues with masturbation, but from a medical standpoint, there is absolutely nothing wrong with it. It can actually be beneficial, as studies have shown that regular ejaculation can help prevent prostate cancer.

It also shouldn't affect marriage at all. Some married people masturbate, others find they don't as much, or at all. There is no "normal".

Porn can cause unrealistic expectations of what sex is like in reality. It's all lights and tricks and made for what men like, mostly, and not what women like. Masturbation, though, in and of itself, is not problematic unless it's causing you harm or interfering with your daily activities, and it doesn't seem to be.
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I agree w/ what auntiejessi said - masturbation in & of itself is not harmful, it’s considered a normal activity & is often done frequently, especially during adolescence. However, it’s true that an excessive obsession with it is not healthy. What we always hear is, you can do it as often as you want as long as it’s not interfering w/ other  aspects of your life. It does sound like it is disrupting your normal activities. So I think the trick is, not stopping entirely, just learning to control it a bit. I admit, that’s a bit tricky - w/ most addictions (alcohol, drugs, smoking), you have to stop entirely - there’s no ‘halfway’ for an addict. Porn is definitely a problem, and that could be what’s leading you into excessive masturbation. What I would suggest is, stop looking at the porn, but when you’re horny, go ahead & ‘scratch the itch’, just enjoying the sensations. You may find if you just focus on what feels good, you’ll actually have a much more satisfying experience, and then (possibly) you’ll feel satisfied enough not to feel compelled to do it again right away. Just let your body’s natural feelings tell you when it’s time. I’m not a Dr or Psychiatrist, so I can’t guarantee this will work for you, but give it a try. Let us know if this is of any help to you…
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