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How can I help him stay hard?

e recently started having a 'friends with benefits' relationship with one of my close friends. We've both not long ago come out of long term, serious relationships and found comfort in each other.

Other than his previous girlfriend I'm the second girl he's had sex with, and he's been having difficulty staying hard. He thought it was just nerves due to us being so close before having sex.

We do a lot of foreplay to try and help with the situation and although it does for a short amount of time it's never for more than a few minutes.

Could it be something more than nerves? And what can I do to try and help with the situation?
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Thanks for the help everyone, things are getting better now
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Sometimes its all about trial & error, in other words finding what excites him and you for that matter. Some men (& women) enjoy role playing, dirty talk, and so on. Try blind folds- if you cut off the sense of sight it causes the other senses to be more alert, sex is more than just seeing but feeling and nothing makes your 'touch/feel' sense go overboard than not being able to see. Try dressing up and making him feel & guess the fabric, material than make him guess the style/design (only let him touch a small portion of whatever it is). Of course there's always the Dom/sub play (maybe he likes being controlled or in control). It can be played out by cammands alone, you dont have to go buy collars, floggers, & leashes. There is a few ideas...and good luck. F with B relationships can be tricky.
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It's fine, I over reacted. It's quite a touchy situation to think about it like that considering how close we've always been. You might be right but I really don't think that's the case.
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Sorry I wasn't trying to be hurtful just maybe you're the only willing girl and option he has at the moment guys will **** anything sometimes
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Thanks for the advice guys, I'll keep all that in mind. And dirtyblond95, he wouldn't keep coming back for more if that was the case, would he?;)
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He's probably not attracted and saying that it's nerves to not hurt your feelings
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Your partner can do some exercises. Few are suggested as under.

Abodminal breathing,
kegel exercises,
Male deer exercises.
Anal breathing,
Breath to orgasm.
Circulating awareness around microcosmic orbit.
Google the above phrases. Let your friend do some of these exercises.
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Foreplay is to arouse female, male has to keep control. If he is over excited he will have premature ejaculation. On your part you can be receptive but not aggressive.Your aggresiveness may over excite him to pre-ejaculate.If male has over masturbated, his brain is trained to ejaculate early. To overcome his problem, he can do edging exercise which trains the brain to delay ejaculation.
You may try for initial stage, masturbate him to ejaculate.Wait for half an hour and then do intercourse. This way his ejaculation will be delayed and he will get confidence that he can sustain his erection for a longer time. Few successful intercourse will help him to perform better. I hope this helpa.
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Tease him to the max as in ride him then stop  in the middle then start doing different things make him grab your breasts or *** just try
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