We have been married for 13 years, but just within the past year my husband started having problems with keeping himself erect or ejaculating too soon. It got to the point where he was always apologizes after sex, which pretty much ruined the intimacy before it. I kept telling him that it didn't matter, and I was fine, but he insisted I was lying and it seemed to devastate him. So I tried to make him see that I was still enjoying myself. Now he shows no interest in me at all. I don't get kisses or hugs EVER, and he rolls right over in bed. When I asked him if he still loved me, he told me that he didn't expect life to be this much of a struggle and then he started in on things about me that he doesn't like. I felt worse than ever. I asked him how I could fix the things he didn't like and he said he didn't know.
I am really frustrated, both emotionally and sexually. I don't understand why my husband doesn't want me anymore and I feel like he's making excuses or starting fights so he doesn't have to be intimate with me. We had talked about him going to the doctor for ED, but I think he is really embarrassed since he's not even 40 yet. He still hasn't discussed it with anyone.
Another thing that is a problem is that I am not even sure if he isn't cheating. He has cheated in the past and never really earned my trust back because I caught him in lies after the fact. He gets angry because I don't trust him and says that he is tired of being blamed for something he isn't doing.
I am not sure what to do, where to go or how to fix this. At this point I just feel like we are roomies and that's it.
Any advice? Thanks.