I agree with.them both. Counsiling is helpful. I went through this. The way they had me look at it is, being a virgin is mostly a title. Some people dont consider anal or oral sex. In your heart your a virgin. You will be one until you willingly give it away. Saying he stole your virginity is letting him win. You are strong. Dont let him win. Im hear to talk if you need.
Fact is that the guy who raped you may have been impotant anyway, and may not been able to get his penis hard enough to break your hymen and penetrate (some female hymens are very tough and not able to be broken with a soft penis) - your doctor could tell you for sure. It is terrible that a guy would force himself on you like that - I agree with remar - get some counselling to help you deal with this awful trama. You still may be a virgin - do yourself a favor and ask your doctor about it, he/she will be able to tell for sure! :-)
I am so sorry this happened to you. Some women do not have any bleeding. If there was penetration then no, you are not a virgin. Did you get rape counseling for this? If not, I think it would really help.