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Have I ruined my sex life with incorrect masturbation habits?
I started rubbing against objects such as the sofa arm, the corners of desks, tables, chairs, benches, countertops, etc, when I was about 5 or 6... It evolved into putting my whole weight on the corners, and clenching my legs and butt muscles while rocking back and forth until orgasm. I ended up finding out what the sensations were after asking my mom about it when I was 12, but she didn't shame me. She told me I was normal but to keep it private as it was a sexual act that people might be shocked or offended by if I did it in public. So I stayed at it, as it was the quickest and easiest way to satiate the urge and throbbing. I still used this method into adulthood as it was quick, I didn't need to get out of my clothes, and there was never any mess to clean up... But now I've been married to my husband for a little over 7 months, and he has yet to give me a clitoral orgasm... We were both virgins until our wedding night, so there was a bit of fumbling around, but eventually he got the hang of giving me g-spot orgasms and making me squirt. Now sometimes after he gives me a g-spot orgasm and I squirt, there are UNBEARABLE and UNSPEAKABLY HIDEOUS intense pains in my abdomen for up to two hours after the orgasm stops... So now he sometimes can't even give me any orgasms at all... Is it my fault that he can't give me clitoral orgasms because of the way I masturbated? And is there anything I can do to fix or help my sex life?
The short answer is NO! Unless you physically traumatized yourself to the point of internal tissue damage, no amount or style of masturbation should damage your future sex life, and you would have known if you had done anything like that. It would have hurt like blazes at the time; I really doubt such a trauma could have passed unnoticed.
You should probably talk to your gynecologist about this. The sort of pain you describe is probably some form of cramping, but you should make sure it's nothing more serious than that (I think it's unlikely, but I'm not an MD) before dismissing it. Also it hurts, and you need a way to stop that. But your masturbation when younger is almost certainly not to blame.
Jason
You should probably talk to your gynecologist about this. The sort of pain you describe is probably some form of cramping, but you should make sure it's nothing more serious than that (I think it's unlikely, but I'm not an MD) before dismissing it. Also it hurts, and you need a way to stop that. But your masturbation when younger is almost certainly not to blame.
Jason
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Can’t add anything to what you’ve said here, Jason - I agree with this 100%, good advice...
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