I have lost my pleasure for sex!

[MrsSinger]

I am a 22 year old female. I used to be the one who would initiate foreplay and show that I wanted to have sex. I am on a few prescription medications and have really bad back problems. I am thinking it may be either side effects of my medication/s or it may be due to my depression. I am on hydrocodone, ambien, zoloft, xanax, seasonique, adderol and acid reflux medication. Its been about a month since me and my husband have had sex and I am worried that it may be taking a toll on our relationship. We don't kiss as much as we used to and I sometimes think I should just try to initiate having sex with him and maybe i will get into it when we start having sex. We are common law married and have a son together and have been together for a year but I feel like this is a little too soon for us to start losing our sex lives. Any suggestions?

[MrsSinger]

I am on pain meds for my back, I have two bulging discs, Degenerative Disc Disease, my hips are unaligned causing pain and a vertebrae above my bulging discs is tilted. I go through too much pain for a 22 year old. After I had my son I developed anxiety problems, probably cause my mom has it really bad too and thats what the xanax is for. I dont take it daily just at times when I feel that I need it. Zoloft is for my depression. The pain over the last year and side effects of my pain medicine has caused me to have a crazy up and down attitude. One minute i would be fine and one minute i would yell at someone for something so little, and another minute i'm sad. I think it may be the Zoloft but im not sure. I was on it a few years ago for about 6 months and I didnt even want to kiss anyone. I was happy but not sexually happy.


The night after I posted this I actually started to kind of want to have sex with him. And it was pretty easy to initiate! So hopefully if I just read about sex or something like that it will turn me on to make love with him :)

Thank you all for your help

[bubbasdaddy]

After starting medical marijuana I have turned my health around! Lost 70 pounds, no longer take blood pressure meds, pain meds or ambien. Cannot talk my wife into trying it though, she would rather be in pain and unhappy than overcome the stigma of this "Dangerous Drug."

[thehitman357]

Yeah, it would be the meds for sure. Does you husband not initiate sex as well?  This is going to be some hard advice, but I will say it anyways. Make sure you have sex with him, if you can, especially if he makes a move. Most men will start cheating after a while if you blow them off long enough. Talk to your doctor about your issues. Good luck.

[princess519]

I understand you. the same thing was happening to me. i was loosing interest in relatonships. it sort of seemed to disgust me in a way. my bf however was not angry about it at all but i think you should maybe see a therapist if you have not already. sorry if its not the greatest help. good luck{:

[AmbassadorofAwesome69]

I find this interesting.  With all due respect, why are you on SO many medications?  I mean I don't really want to know the answer to that but, good grief, all that would have an effect on any sex life.  Many, many years ago, I was on Prozac and it started having an effect on my wife and I's sex relationship and, she, like you, was still young (well, we both were) and still wanted to have sex on a fairly regular basis.  So, I thought to myself, hmmmm, great sex or this medication so I just stopped taking it and let the natural chemicals released during sex (or exercise works too) do the trick.  Yes, it is too early!!  You have to ask yourself - do I want it this way for the rest of my life or do I want to see a doctor and try to get off some of these medications.  I'm no doctor but that just sounds like a bunch of pain killers and muscle relaxants.  You may want to schedule an appointment with a therapist as well.  Medication isn't the answer to everything.