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I have never had a orgasm during sex(female)... is this normal. Is their anything I can do.
Hi,
I believe you're with the majority; supposedly 70% of women don't achieve orgasm during intercourse.
If you are able to have an orgasm during masturbation, but unable to during sex, there are a few things you can do. Consider what might be keeping you from experiencing an orgasm with your partner. Is it that you don't feel confident or relaxed enough around your partner? Is stress or anxiety a factor ( re.work schedule or children)? Have you and your partner fallen into a rut, or boring routine? What ever the case is, you can alleviate some of the pressure on you, by setting the mood ahead of time. First, figure out a time during the day/night, when work or kids won't interrupt the time you want to share with your partner (alone). You can also carve out a little bit of time toward trying on some lingerie, or an outfit that makes you feel sexy and self-assured, before sex. Dim or turn off the lights, and put on some music that both of you like ~ use candlelight or soft lightning instead, the idea is to create a relaxing environment. Focus on more foreplay before sex; show your partner what turns you on (you may have to guide his hand to your pleasure points). Clitoral stimulation and vulva message during intercourse usually kicks an orgasm into high gear for a lot of women. Another idea that might help, is to research sexual massage and techniques with your partner ahead of time ~ it can help spice up your routine and give both of you new ideas.
A helpful key to keep in mind during foreplay and sex, is to relax and enjoy yourself. Don't make achieving an orgasm a goal; make having a good time with your partner your focal point.
Take Care & Have Fun!
I believe you're with the majority; supposedly 70% of women don't achieve orgasm during intercourse.
If you are able to have an orgasm during masturbation, but unable to during sex, there are a few things you can do. Consider what might be keeping you from experiencing an orgasm with your partner. Is it that you don't feel confident or relaxed enough around your partner? Is stress or anxiety a factor ( re.work schedule or children)? Have you and your partner fallen into a rut, or boring routine? What ever the case is, you can alleviate some of the pressure on you, by setting the mood ahead of time. First, figure out a time during the day/night, when work or kids won't interrupt the time you want to share with your partner (alone). You can also carve out a little bit of time toward trying on some lingerie, or an outfit that makes you feel sexy and self-assured, before sex. Dim or turn off the lights, and put on some music that both of you like ~ use candlelight or soft lightning instead, the idea is to create a relaxing environment. Focus on more foreplay before sex; show your partner what turns you on (you may have to guide his hand to your pleasure points). Clitoral stimulation and vulva message during intercourse usually kicks an orgasm into high gear for a lot of women. Another idea that might help, is to research sexual massage and techniques with your partner ahead of time ~ it can help spice up your routine and give both of you new ideas.
A helpful key to keep in mind during foreplay and sex, is to relax and enjoy yourself. Don't make achieving an orgasm a goal; make having a good time with your partner your focal point.
Take Care & Have Fun!
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i read yours after i submitted mine but i agree and think i basically said the same thing and i hope it helps her as well.
It's always good to have more advice & positive opinions around here :) Keep 'em coming!
it is normal, and i have met many women who are in that boat. there are 2 types of orgasms clitoral and vaginal, so its important if you want to have an orgasm during sex to know if you have had any orgasm at all? Just like men, women can have difficulties orgasming if they masterbate a lot and/or use sexual aids . But one way to have an orgasm while having sex is to be open with your partner and maybe integrate what you do while your alone into the relationship and have open dialog as to what he/she needs to do or tell give instructions to what feels good/better/best or not good at all. You would be surprised how many men know so little about what and how to please a woman.
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