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I'm ready to just give up my virginity?
I'm only 14, please do not judge me about this. Sometimes I feel like I'm just ready to give up my virginity; however, I know I will regret it. I am trying to save myself until marriage, but a lot of stuff makes me horny. I wanna wait to have sex until I find someone special, but I don't know if I can wait that long. I know of the risk of getting pregnant, but for some reason I still wanna do it. I really need to find a way to calm down and just wait til marriage. Is something wrong with me? Is this normal? How can I wait til marriage? I feel like a sick, perverted person. Am I really?
don't give it up,if you know you will regret it then don't, if you make that mistake you know you can't go back and change it.your young and your only young once so enjoy your youth to the fullest while you can.if you sleep with someone and catch a disease that can't be reversed then it will all have been for nothing except a 20 to 30 minute thrill.don't take the chance on ruining your life because there are no second chances.if you want it that badly turn to masturbating and when you climax you will be happy you didn't give it up.at least your thinking before you act.most people act then think afterwards,then they realized they mad a mistake.i really hope i was of some help to you without bending your ear too much
i 1st did it on my 15th birthday and do not regret it. i was mature and educated, used a condom that split but went and got morning after pill. i was in a loving relationship - friends for 6 months going out for 3 months. we lasted 2 years.
please dont as you say give up your virginity. so long as you give it to someone who you love and who loves you i dont thing you need to wait for marriage.
my mum used to say to me 'you wouldn't but a coat without trying it on first'
please dont as you say give up your virginity. so long as you give it to someone who you love and who loves you i dont thing you need to wait for marriage.
my mum used to say to me 'you wouldn't but a coat without trying it on first'
hey!! I just wanted to share with u a litlle bit about my exprience.. im 22 years old an i recently lost my virginity..i've always been really tacky about it and i wanted to wait to be in love, and it was wonderful. I understand that nowadays, with the pressure and everything going on around us its hard to be a virgin anymore hahaha, i say this because i know how u feel,, i remember those days and my friends talking about sex 24/7. My advise to you is to wait until ur at least 17 or 18 because thats the age where u can get on the pill without ur parents being involved...u dont want to end pregnant..and trust me the "broken condom" and all those stories do happen cause they havve happened to me once or twice.....so i would advise u to maybe explore ur body urself..masturbate, whatever is necessay to calm it down until u feel u cant handle it anymore..cause trust me!! once u pop it u cant stop :) ...well i hope this helps u ..take care
Don't do it! I was young when I had sex and now I regret it. Like everyone else saying that masturbation will help the urges. Just wait little longer and if you still want to loose your virginity PLEASE have a condom on you.
Good luck
Good luck
PLEASE do not be in any hurry to have sex!! I know your hormones are running wild right now, but try your best to listen to your instincts. That little voice that is saying, "Wait!" is right.
On the other hand, if you DO give in, please be protected. Protect yourself from STD's and pregnancy.
As others have said, masturbation will help curve those "urges"
Your virginity is sacred and is not something to just give away. When it is gone, it is gone and there is no getting it back. Mine was taken at the age of 13 by rape. I wanted it to be with someone I loved and cherished and NOT at that young of age! It led me down a destructive path that I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy.
Anyway, good luck sweetie and let us know what you decide!
On the other hand, if you DO give in, please be protected. Protect yourself from STD's and pregnancy.
As others have said, masturbation will help curve those "urges"
Your virginity is sacred and is not something to just give away. When it is gone, it is gone and there is no getting it back. Mine was taken at the age of 13 by rape. I wanted it to be with someone I loved and cherished and NOT at that young of age! It led me down a destructive path that I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy.
Anyway, good luck sweetie and let us know what you decide!
I thank you for your advice now let me give you some i am old school when it comes to this. Your innoscence is precious and should be valued and cherished. Boys and girls are different when it comes to sex. Most teenage boys do it just to get off they don't really care about the girls feelings. Girls on the other hand, are emotional and more often then not connect sex with love. I was 19 before i lost my virginity, and now i wish i would have waited to lose it to someone who loved me not a guy who was just using me. Believe me you will respect yourself more if you wait for sex. my daughter is 18 and still a virgin she has decided that she wants to wait until she gets married. Your virginity is something special and can only be given away once, don't waste it like alot of us do, wait until it means something more then just satisfying an urge. Like barefootand said masturbation with a dildo is ok if you don't have one you can also just use you finger. not only will you save your viginity you will also maintain your selfrespect. hope i helped
I was just reading your coments again. You are a nice girl right.
I was a freak girl of the 80s short short hair alyaws in skirts and t shirts sometimes accesorized with suspenders.Black lipstick? Yes! Teased guys and pined them on the lockers for a deep kiss?Yep.
please dont give it up wait dont turn into a freak girl. be patient the urges will pass.
If it is any consolation the guys your age are feeling the same way.
It is natural. People used to live to about 23 if they were lucky to mis out on starvation or disease. Science has enabeled us to live longer but are bodies still want to reproduce at our natural life cycle rate that is why you feel the way you do it is not bad or dirty or wrong just natural. I finde being with nature helps calm things. Go the park walk bare foot on the grass sit on the earth get your hands and feet dirty. it sounds crazy but I enjoy it It makes me tingle.
I was a freak girl of the 80s short short hair alyaws in skirts and t shirts sometimes accesorized with suspenders.Black lipstick? Yes! Teased guys and pined them on the lockers for a deep kiss?Yep.
please dont give it up wait dont turn into a freak girl. be patient the urges will pass.
If it is any consolation the guys your age are feeling the same way.
It is natural. People used to live to about 23 if they were lucky to mis out on starvation or disease. Science has enabeled us to live longer but are bodies still want to reproduce at our natural life cycle rate that is why you feel the way you do it is not bad or dirty or wrong just natural. I finde being with nature helps calm things. Go the park walk bare foot on the grass sit on the earth get your hands and feet dirty. it sounds crazy but I enjoy it It makes me tingle.
Hi swsunshine
I was 14 and realy realy horney I invited a guy over and after a few beer just let him slober allover me and eventualy after bit of trying he managed a short 5 minute pop in and out before loosing it. My dildo did a great job compared to this fast action stud.Most guys arond his age 16 seemed to be about the same.I tried afew well alot maybe. I became known as the Sl***t that would do any body including nerds.It was a downward trip from there till I pulled myself up in my mid 20s.Drugs,booze,no self esteem failed relationships.
My advice is mastrabate get a dilldo and hump it till you pass out but dont give it a way because your horney maybe give a way a few kisses or tease to get off but do your self a favor and mature a bit like a couple of years atleast and the guys mature to.
Saving virginity is ok I supose I gave mine to my Moms vibrator It was soooo Loud.
The new ones are quiet and almost silent after you cram them in a hole.I love mine
It never gets tired and stays hard.
Dont get into trouble making sex decisions when your horny thier going to be bad.
Do you have an older friend or relative that would get you a dildo or vibe?
Many of us old broads have a dwar full dont be embrased about it.
I was 14 and realy realy horney I invited a guy over and after a few beer just let him slober allover me and eventualy after bit of trying he managed a short 5 minute pop in and out before loosing it. My dildo did a great job compared to this fast action stud.Most guys arond his age 16 seemed to be about the same.I tried afew well alot maybe. I became known as the Sl***t that would do any body including nerds.It was a downward trip from there till I pulled myself up in my mid 20s.Drugs,booze,no self esteem failed relationships.
My advice is mastrabate get a dilldo and hump it till you pass out but dont give it a way because your horney maybe give a way a few kisses or tease to get off but do your self a favor and mature a bit like a couple of years atleast and the guys mature to.
Saving virginity is ok I supose I gave mine to my Moms vibrator It was soooo Loud.
The new ones are quiet and almost silent after you cram them in a hole.I love mine
It never gets tired and stays hard.
Dont get into trouble making sex decisions when your horny thier going to be bad.
Do you have an older friend or relative that would get you a dildo or vibe?
Many of us old broads have a dwar full dont be embrased about it.
BTW... My daughter who is turning 15 tells me that all teenage girls are just as sick and perverted as teen boys. Not that it's any comfort as her dad to know that.
As a dad, this is what I say. Start birth control first and find a caring considering partner that you don't mind remembering for the rest of your life who is first and foremost a friend. Your first time from what I hear will probably not be all that great but if you read articles online or ask some of the women here I am sure they can advise you on what to do but above all don't rush it! I says something that men AND women in countries with the best sex ed like sweden wait the longest before they have sex the first time.
Yes i agree, masturbation is fine and helps those urges. i was your age when getting them and i really wanted to have sex. I waited til i was 16 anyway...not with a guy i cared about and not my proudest moment lol but i cant say i regret it. To me sex with my current partner (whom i love very much) was just as special as having sex for the first time.
You have to be comepletely ready and comfortable, youll be nervous but thats normal. I dont know what the legal age to have sex is where you are but its 16 in england so wait until your legal!
And if you want to wait til marriage then thats fine, if you dont, thats fine too. Its your body and your life :)
You have to be comepletely ready and comfortable, youll be nervous but thats normal. I dont know what the legal age to have sex is where you are but its 16 in england so wait until your legal!
And if you want to wait til marriage then thats fine, if you dont, thats fine too. Its your body and your life :)
its totally normal to feel horny at times, i agree with azeman. its human nature.
we both have had the same state-of-mind..[before i have had my first time ever].. I wanted to do it but still scared because it might shatter my dream of becoming an engineer on time [2 more years in college!yey!]..
its your decision to do it or not, though be prepared of the aftermaths..considering your only 14..so young..you should just be planning your future now..:)
like me, on my first time [and the last time since now], my guy used a condom..day after the deed, i felt an extreme itch on my vagina, it happens to be that i was allergic with that condom..i suggest you check the expiration date of the condom of the material used for it..anyway,just a precaution, even with a condom, you can still be pregnant because usually, condoms get small cracks which cant be perceived by our eyes..be careful kid..take it from me..consider your future..yes its a fun feeling for a moment, but it can cause a lifetime remorse..ok..be careful of STDs and stuffs.:)
we both have had the same state-of-mind..[before i have had my first time ever].. I wanted to do it but still scared because it might shatter my dream of becoming an engineer on time [2 more years in college!yey!]..
its your decision to do it or not, though be prepared of the aftermaths..considering your only 14..so young..you should just be planning your future now..:)
like me, on my first time [and the last time since now], my guy used a condom..day after the deed, i felt an extreme itch on my vagina, it happens to be that i was allergic with that condom..i suggest you check the expiration date of the condom of the material used for it..anyway,just a precaution, even with a condom, you can still be pregnant because usually, condoms get small cracks which cant be perceived by our eyes..be careful kid..take it from me..consider your future..yes its a fun feeling for a moment, but it can cause a lifetime remorse..ok..be careful of STDs and stuffs.:)
I say don't do it. Masturbation might help however. It is normal... it is human nature we are in fact mammals. I lost my virginity young and still regret it It causes more problems than its worth.
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