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9704378 tn?1553726192

Is This Okay???

Tomorrow, I'm supposed to be somewhat alone with this guy I like. We've been knowing each other for some months, & this isn't the 1st time he's been over with me, "alone." I have a 1 yr old daughter. He's met her, multiple times, previously. Since we're going to have some time to ourselves, I'd like to enjoy it, if you catch my drift. Not necessarily sex, but sexual things, while I can. Since he isn't her father, is it wrong to do these things with my daughter in the room, or the house, at all? We've done it, before, but make sure she's asleep, 1st. I feel like a bad mom, but I want some fun, while I can get it. Sorry, if that sounds selfish.
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134578 tn?1693250592
OK to do things with a child in the house, asleep.  Not OK to do them with a child awake in the room.  (And if the child is 1 year old, if she is awake, I understand she will be in the room -- no turning your back on a 1-year-old for even a minute, right?)  

Don't put your child's safety or mental safety in second place to your desire to have fun.  If this means that, should your child not want to go to sleep, you don't get to have fun, I'm sorry but that is what it means.  If you are super-eager to be with this guy for sex, can you take your child to your mom's for the night?
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1029273 tn?1472231494
Hi,

I don't see why you can't enjoy some 'adult time', while your daughter is asleep and content in her own bed. Naturally, it can be hard sometimes to put yourself first, especially when you've become so used to thinking of your child as your # 1 priority. Even though you're a mommy, you're still allowed to enjoy being an adult woman too! Trust your gut feeling & motherly instinct. As long as you feel like you can trust this guy and feel comfortable w/him in your home, I don't think you should be worried. Have fun!

Good Luck :)
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