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Is he gay?

Met a guy and he's now living with me for a bit. He tells me he likes me a lot, etc. He also says I can tell people he's my boyfriend, but problem is, he hasn't really touched my breasts or anything like that. I mean, he's given me oral, but didn't ask me to return. He's showed me his penis, but didn't ask me to do anything. He doesn't even try to have actual sex. He also enjoys touching my butt and talks about it. I feel he enjoys that more than anything vaginally but he did what he did the other night and I'm not sure if a gay man would enjoy going down on a woman? He was also drunk, though. I thought about just groping him will we make out, but I'm not sure if that's wrong or not or if he'd get weirded out. I don't know what to do. He'll say things like, oh that man had nice arms I wish mine were like that, too. I just find it off he won't lemme touch him like he does me. He doesn't ask me to do anything to him. I just feel as if I'm wasting my time.
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Hi,


Well, you could just ask him if he is gay or straight. It is relevant to your relationship, and this is something that you should be able to discuss with him because you do live together and have had sexual contact.

I remember your last post, from about a week ago, mentioning your anxiety with intimacy. Perhaps he is sensing your anxiety, and doesn't want to make you feel pressured into having intercourse with him?

You should have an honest conversation with him about how you feel; hopefully it will help clear up any confusion about your relationship.

Good Luck
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